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writes:Guys, my boyfriend of almost 2 years hasn't really been treating me well, we have been in along distance relationship but calling and messaging has been my responsibility alone he calls only when he wants,alot of things and i mean alot of thngs have happened btwn us, he kept pushing me away, but i was royal to him, we lost contact for the past 2 weeks,and in the mean rime i ve been evaluating our relationship with the view of ending it,and a new guy who also live far from me emerged from no where but i think am really attached to him or may be we are into each other, I always avoid him but he don't get it, he even travelled 980 km yerstday to come and see me but when i asked him why does he have to com to my town if he was here last week he said he come to pick up his shipments but i know he is lying.he jst dont want to tell me he is here for me becaz i told him not to.i know that i really feel something for him if not jst infatuaton,but my current boy friend smsd me yerstday asking when will i go to his town caus he know i will attend a coursr at the univ in his town starting next month, now all i feel for my current boyfriend is anger and disapointment. Will it be a mistake if I dump him now? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): You won't be making a mistake if you dump your current boydfriend - what would you be losing? You wouldn't lose any emotional support or love as you don't get any of that anyway. A relationship should be a two way situation - his behaviour tells you he doesn't feel enough for you, and you say yourself you only feel anger and resentment towards this guy.
End it now because you are wasting your precious time. You can be anyone, and this current boyfriend is preventing you from meeting someone who could be amazing - if you really like this other guy then meet up with him, but don't leave your current boyfriend because of this. Leave him because the relationship is giving you nothing and he really is using you. You can hold your head high as you were loyal, and make sure you're the one to make the decision and walk away. Then you can have no regrets.
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, break up with him. Don't make that decision based on meeting someone new.
Learn to love and enjoy yourself before you get involved with anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Really, it depends how committed you are to him and he is to you. It also depends on how long you will be apart from each other and how much you trust each other. There are many reasons why this could be happening. He might be being unfaithful while you are apart, or he might just be trying to cope with being apart from you in his own unusual way. I had a very similar experiance when i went to university, i suggest you read my post ( http://www.dearcupid.org/question/any-chance-of-my-ex-and-i-reuniting.html ) because I made the wrong decision of breaking up with my girlfriend and I've lived to regret it.
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