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36-40,
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writes:My boyfriend and I had been together for about6 months, but we were seeing eachother for about 6 months before we made it official. We both loved each other deeply and everything was going fine until I recently cheated on my boyfriend by kissing someone from my past. I did not intend on cheating on him when I went to hang out at his apartment party but he just laid one on me. I told this guy that I had boyfriend but we both had a lot to drink and it just happened. I told my boyfriend a few days later and he was livid. After a week, he decided to give me another chance but over the next few weeks, he couldn't seem to let it go. He was still very much hurt and he felt like he could never trust me again. Two weeks later, out of spite, he kissed a girl he met at a club and broke up with me that night. Now he wants his space and he said he doesn't want to "put all of his eggs in one basket" because he is afraid of being hurt again. But he told me that he still cares for me in that way. At the same time, he said he wants to "get to know people" and live his life. I am from the US but I am leaving to study in a University abroad in about 2 months and I want to leave with him as my boyfriend. But he had previously been in a long-distance relationship and he had a terrible experience with it. His ex-girlfriend had cheated on him while she was abroad and so he is still scarred from that. That is why he does not want to have a long-distance relationship with me. But I am willing to work my hardest to regain that trust and redeem myself in his eyes. I don't know what to do because I love him so much and I am willing to do anything in my power to make it work. He told me that we should just play it by ear and see where it goes after I come back from school (which is about a year).But I can't bear to see him messing around with other girls. I'm afraid that he will find someone else and fall in love with her while I'm on the other side of the world missing him and waiting for the day we reunite as a couple. I know our relationship is worth salvaging, but I don't know if he loves me enough to wait for me or be with with me while I'm in another country.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): Ohh girl, this guy want to move on he has anger over you, when you come back after a year all sad after missing him day by day or crying, he wont want to be with you anymore. men are prettymuch done when their hurt girls are diffrent, guys u know what they think with, their little wohwoh down there. If he does get back with u a couple weeks later he'd be mad at how untrustfull he think you are and he'll use u. Didnt he go on and madeout with another girl didnt he get into another relationship. Ure going to get hurt move on ok..
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