Will he tire of being there for me?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been in an off and on relationship for the past 2 years. we are off now and I at the point of just walking away for good. I have agreat friend who is a guy and he is younger than me, 28. we didnt start out as platonic friends but we are extremely attracted to one another but during the time that i am dating the 32 yr old, he reamins and respects me as a great friend. he was upset when i decided that we should be platonic friends. he didnt talk to me for months and finally we started talking and hanging out again, just as friends. we are comfortable around one another, like we will do to dinner and a movie and then i will spend the night at his house and then we do it again. i know he will eventually stop wanting to be around me because we are not intimate like we use to be. we do live in different cities and its about a 45 minute drive. He has always been nice and respectful to me and never been ugly or mean with saying things to hurt my feelings. he wont spend time with me when i am with the other guy but when we split he comes to the rescue and helps me heal from the emotional turmoil. He enjoys being with me and we can spend the night together without him trying anything. We have been friends for about 4 years now and the first 2 years, i was so in love with him but he was afraid of a relationship or he didnt want one so i moved on and just remained ffriends with him. once i did this he acted like he was offended by what i did and didnt understand. so my question is will he want more from me or will he get tired fo being there for me as a friend when i go through this ordeal? he would have been my first choice of a boyfriend but couldnt or wouldnt give me the time. Then i got involved with the other guy whom i knew for 10+ years and now its been on and off again for the last 2 years. i am not sure if he will be back this time or not? How do you know if he will, because i would like to move on and not have any harassing issues from him. can anyone give me respectful and non-judgemental advice please?????

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