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writes:Do you think my ex and i will get back together? Okay so we have been broke up for a month went 2 weeks or so no contact but we are talking again . The first week of the break up i was stupid and BEGGED for him to take me back .. He didnt . But yesterday when we were talking he said things like "if you didnt stop trying in the beginning we would have prob been back together" he also said "if i wanted something really bad i wouldnt give up until i got it" im assuming thats his hint to get me begging again but maybe he really doesnt want to be with me. I said i miss him and he said sure you doooo.. And i said do u miss me and hes like ya of course i do but i dont think i want to do this again! Do you think he wants to be with me if i keep trying or hes just playing games and has no intentions of being with me :(
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 He's being vindictive, really. That's all there is to it, he's saying things to hurt you on purpose.
You can tell a lot of a man by seeing how he handles defeat/a breakup. If he's vindictive during the breakup, it was only a matter of time before he'd turn vindictive while in the relationship too, and say hurtful things to "win" an argument.
He's just trying to get back at you, push you down, so he will feel better himself.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (28 June 2011):
Oh he's just being a jerk towards you saying those things, and it is absolutely not true. This just shows that he still has no idea what he wants and enjoyed you crawling at his feet, maybe he felt empowered by it.
I have a girlfriend who got dumped a few months ago. She went for one whole month trying to talk to him, to get back together, to sort things out (as there was a petty reason for the breakup).
Then after a month she gave up as he was not interested. Then guess what? He has the nerve to tell her the exact same thing your ex has told you.
He has no intentions of being with you again, he just enjoyed the attention and feels like a loser now that it's gone and he finally realized just how lonely he is without you. You can play the same game back: "well if you actually wanted me you'd not have broken up".
This guy doesn't know what he wants, sorry, and he doesn't want to be together with you again. He's just scared of letting go and have some other man snatch you up. That's the way with immature men, they will toss the toy away, but doesn't want anyone else to pick it up and play.
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reader, lacy31 +, writes (28 June 2011):
lacy31 is verified as being by the original poster of the question"He mentioned that if you hadn't tried so much in the first place then you may be back together" no he said if you WOULD have tried more instead of giving up earlier then we would have been back together.. When i live live without him and have fun i get msgs saying "see i knew you didnt care, you just accepted it and gave up and forgot about me"
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 He actually kind of contradicted himself with what he said. If am honest no I don't think you should keep trying because it will come across as desperate and it will just push him further away. I don't think he wants you to try and get back with him. He mentioned that if you hadn't tried so much in the first place then you may be back together. He needs to see that you are independant and that you don't need him in your life. He doesn't want you to be clingy and telling him that you miss him. Therefore start living your life without him and show him that you can have fun without him. As for him saying if he wanted something so bad he wouldn't give up. Well this is obvious that if he wanted to get back with you he would fight for it but he is not so that should tell you what you need to know. He has pretty much spelt it out to you that he doesn't want to go back there. Off course he is going to miss you because you where a part of his life but I think that he feels you where a part of his past therefore I think you need to just give up and start moving forward with your life.
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