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writes:I am 30 my boyfriend is 24 we have been dating for a year, I left home at 21 and until three weeks ago he has never moved out of home. We moved in together 3 weeks ago and since then he keeps telling me how to do things, common sense stuff, driving, cooking, cleaning, it is driving me mad and I keep shouting at him not to do it but he doesn't stop, will it stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Thats ok hun goodluck take care love mandy xxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMandy,His mother tells his father what to do all the time too so I can see where he has got it from...he never used to be like it...he used to come over to my flat when I lived alone and he was fine, it's only been the last three weeks, I fell out with him earlier on the phone cos I asked if I could use his car and he insisted on telling me to "be careful with it, you don't need to put your foot down" and I drive it quite alot, also I passed my test 13 years ago and he passed his 6 years ago...I will talk to him tonight and let you know how I get on...thanks for the advice.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Well he is being very condescending towards you. Obviously he has very little trust and faith in your judgement. That's a bad sign. Its just a sign that you guys are not really in tune with each other. Its a sign of many things, actually. Especially incompatibility. I mean someone that you are genuinely compatible with will definitely trust you and even if you make mistakes you would both laugh at them together and you would admire each other and enjoy the little nuisances and all that.
So obviously you guys are not that compatible. So now you know. So this problem is probably not going to stop only because it is a symptom of a bigger problem. That you guys are not compatible. So you know, you could settle for that kind of relationship or if you feel kind of balsy and sassy, you could leave him and find yourself your ultimate match.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Hi Hunny,
I agree with you 100% this can be very annoying to say the least, Ask him if his father tells his mum what to do and how to do it. As if this is what he has listened to then he may think it usual behaviour and it is not...
You are very independent and hunny like me if someone told me how to clean they would end up with the mop round there head, So instead of shouting sit him down and tell him this kind of behaviour can make you feel not only cross but useless as you dont feel as your doing anything right and how would he feel if it was you telling him how to go about his daily life, If he then wont listen you will have to think if moving in together was a good thing for you and him as you will end up banging him over the head with the mop love, I hope things get better for you soon take care love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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