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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. I know for sure that i love him, i never question that. But recently he told me he doesnt think he loves me. He said he's trying to. The way he acts around me makes me think he does, spending all night with me when i was in the hospital, being upset when i'm upset, wanting to make me happy, taking care of me, etc. Maybe he just doesnt recognize love because he's never been in love before. Or maybe he just doesnt love me and i'll never be enough. Am i stupid for continuing with this relationship where my love isnt reciprocated? When he goes out of the country this summer for 2 months do you think he'll realize? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): It sounds like he doesn't love you.
I guess you should move on and find someone else, then he can also meet the woman he will eventually marry.
The break will do you both good and if he doesn't know by that time, I recommend that you move on as quickly as possible so you don't waste your time on him.
There are other people out there who you might be more suited to. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't love you back.
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 He may love you, but he may not be in love with you. I have heard guys make this distinction before. Either way, it's not easy to accept or deal with. Maybe you should tell him that you both need time...to see what it is you feel. One thing is, you can't force him to feel what he doesn't. any attempts on your part will only push him away. I hope it all works out. I'll cross my fingers for you darling.
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reader, stellaforstar  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Aw darling that's so sad. I feel so bad for you to be in this situation. I know it's hard, and he clearly does love you on some level if he's so concerned about you, but i think it would be pointless to continue a relationship when one person has fallen out of love. There is every chance when he goes away he will miss you and realise his mistakes, but you can't hang around waiting for that. You deserve more. Remember that honey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Well he could just be a caring sort of guy who is supportive of the people he is close to in general. Or it could be that he thinks if he declares love you might want to move it on a step he isn't ready for. Or maybe there is something missing which he hasn't said. I know it's hard, but try and keep and open mind, don't pin your hopes on him until you have something concrete and yes, the time away will help you both, one way or another. There's nothing more painful than one-way love so if it doesn't work out, just be thankful that you found out sooner rather than later.
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reader, leash5picture +, writes (6 May 2009):
leash5picture is verified as being by the original poster of the question*he's never told me he loves me before, because he wasnt sure
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