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writes:My boyfriend was perfect for two years. suddenly he went back in his hometown and after come back he stared ignoring me and didn't want to talked with me too much and one day he said , he don't want to be with me anymore and after one week I heard that he was going out with someone , but I really loved him and I wanted to get back him that girl just wanted to time pass with him and leave him after two weeks. so I asked him do you have any space for me in your heart . He said "yes" I do have. so I asked him for start over again . we are in relationship now but I really cant trust him anymore. I'm afraid of loosing him again but he shows care about me lot.. and I still love him the much I loved him before and I wanna marry him . what do you think he will marry me ??. I don't know what to do I'm confuse. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ashlesha  +, writes (12 August 2009):
Well, he lost interest in you the day he broke up with you. He is with you now because he has no other option. He has done it before. He is capable of doing it again. Go with your gut feeling. If you are not able to trust him anymore then you should immediately break up with him because trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship.
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reader, Rimi +, writes (28 June 2009):
Rimi is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks to everyone for reply ..
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (27 June 2009):
 Put marriage aside for the moment I suspect if you push it he will run so You will more time to assess the situation. when he found someone else he dumped you and possibly came back because it didn't work. My concern is the way he simply walked away from you when he found someone else, he did not talk, explain, nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): I don't think marrying him will bring about your re-assurance that he will never cheat on you again OR suddenly allow you to trust him again. It's something you should be 100% sure about as well as for him so you wil have to learn to trust him 1st and he will have to come to terms with what he did. When this is done and have healed , then you can talk about marriage. If you just jump into marriage now whether he wants to or not, then in my opinion you are just wasting your time by being blind to how you feel, which will backfire.
Good luck to you though, hope things do work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): Take your time with wanting to get married. The last thing you want to do is pressure him into something he way not be ready for, or you either; it's a choice that requires complete and total trust and confidence on both sides. Guys are still very immature, at least until their mid twenties (and some are all their lives), people change, and people lie. If I were you, tying the knot would be the least of my worries. I would start by building trust and making him hold that trust for at least a few years first. You both need to have fun and grow as individuals, before you can determine what you really want. Then, if all goes well, I'm sure you will both know what will happen...:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): Oh babydoll i'm afraid no one here can tell you if he will marry you! That's a huge and very personal decision on both of your halves and you're just going to half to communicate this with HIM to find out what you want to know.
I'd be careful of rushiing into marraige though if i were you. He obviuosly had a hard time staying committed earlier so who's to say he won't have a hard time in the future?
~Sy.
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