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Will he leave me? My past says so

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Question - (26 April 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 3 May 2010)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Me and my BF have been dating for almost 7 months and i have this insecurity that he is gonna leave me for someone better. He tells me all the time that he loves me and for me not to worry cause it wont happen but yet I still worry because the past realtionships have hurt me. I know that he is differant then them and i know he would never hurt me but I am still worried. What shoud I do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010):

Hey,

I can totally relate to you. I have been in a relationship for 1 year now and feel the same way. I talk to my friends constantly about this but don't get anywhere. One of them recommended this relationship coach that she spoke to when she had a hard break up. Her name is Atieno Bird...if you have a chance you could email her and ask for some help: [email address blocked].

Or her website is www.findyouridealmate.com. Anyway, I recently got in touch with her and had a great talk over the phone. It will take time for me to have more confidence about myself and trust in the relationship, I know that, but talking to her brought me up! Hope it works out for you : )

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A female reader, fishdish United States +, writes (26 April 2010):

fishdish agony auntsomething i've learned recently, is that commitment to a person does not just mean loyalty but also your determination to cast away the doubts, insecurities and other obstacles leading to your heart. if you keep your heart open, give your all to this guy, then yes you're vulnerable, but you're also giving this guy 100% of a chance, which it sounds like he might deserve if he likes you as much as he says.

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A female reader, Lexie88 Australia +, writes (26 April 2010):

Lexie88 agony auntAs hard as it is, you need to stop worrying and trust him. He's with you because he wants to be.

Also, you have to learn to live in the moment. Enjoy what you have with him now. No one knows what will happen. People change and things might not work out...but don't let that ruin what you have have now. Imagine something happened to him (or you) tomorrow...would't it be better to have enjoyed the time with him instead of having spent that time worrying about things that might not happen?

Also, if you start to worry too much, that in itself could drive him away. He's reassuring you because he cares about you, but there's a limit to his patience.

So enjoy what you have now. All you can do is enjoy the here and now. Don't waste the now by worrying about what might or might not happen.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010):

you're spending too much time worrying about this forget about if he's going to leave you or not .... you never know when someone is going to hurt you and this man is telling you that he loves you trust him... guys don't like insecure girls show him that your confident and stop worrying life life to the fullest

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