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anonymous
writes:My ex and I started hanging out and talking again. We flirted, but I know she is dating a new guy (from just after we broke up, her best friend). I told her to stop stringing me along bc I still have feelings for her (i was pretty mean). It turns out she was trying to reconcile our relationship, not toy with me, and she took alot of offense to what I said to her about how she has treated me. I still do want her back, but now instead of wanting to get back together she thinks we need to "get over eachother". We still talk, and have hung out and are planning to hang out again. I told her I was going to show her that I can make her the priority in my life (reason we broke up) by being her friend, but after knowing she wanted to get back I want more. She says we are just friends and doesn't know if anything will ever happen between us again. How can she want to get back, and now not? Will she want to get back together again, if I stay in her life, and show her I can make her my first priority?
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (27 April 2010):
She can't get together with you while still being with another guy... maybe she should dump him first?
Frankly, I think you should make yourself your first priority. Take this opportunity to grow as a person and get the kind of relationship you deserve.
That's my opinion...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): It doesn't sound like she can make up her mind. I know it hurts but I think you have to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said herself that she was trying to get back together with me. Tht she believed tht I could give her more time and had changed. She told me she still loves me an isn't over me yet. We broke up bc she thought that it would help me change. You may be right but I guess I want there to be a chance.
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reader, Dekten +, writes (26 April 2010):
Okay, let's go over some of your points:
1. She is dating a new guy who is/was her best friend. Is there any indication she's unhappy with him? Doesn't seem to be the case.
2. When she tries to reconcile a relationship, it means trying to be friends with you. It's likely that she's trying to be your buddy instead of your girlfriend.
3. What do you mean with "priority in your life"? It sounds clingy.
As I understand the situation, she basically wants to be friends with you and hang out. Nothing more. She's already in a relationship and it's not with you.
Sorry.
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