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writes:I am 27 i have been sexually active since 16 but i am still scared to get on top and ride my partner. do you have any advice to break me out of my shyness. also,do you think my man will leave me because of this issue?
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (15 April 2009):
 I cant believe someone said "Yes a man should leave you for not riding him" That is completely unhelpful and not very thoughtful. Its not true. Just work on being more assertive and comfortable with your body...there are many ways to accomplish this including learning how to dance, singing in the shower, even looking at porn if it doesnt offend you. Just try to be more comfortable with yourself and talk to your man about it and im sure you will eventually come to some epiphany or realization where you one night just decide to get on top. A glass of wine definately helps!
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (15 April 2009):
dont listen to the anon poster without a sex, its being a retard. why would someone leave you just because you dont know/like riding your partner? i saw somewhere (not sure how accurate this number is though) that 30% of guys can not have an organism while laying on his back. i personally do but its not nearly as good or big as when im doing anything else. but when i girl rides a guy,(personal opion: its amazing), it feels good after a hard day at work or whatever and it feels nice to not have to move sometimes. imagine you are riding a horse pretty much the same movment.
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reader, jchevy1791 +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Does he ask you to be on top or are you just thinking it bothers him that you don't. I don't think he'll leave you because of it. Do you think you'll look funny. You could try in the dark maybe or under the covers. Also try talking to him about it. Explain to him why its uncomfortale for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): OMG, totally ignore what the last girl said.. if someone is going to leave you because you dont want to be on top.. then let the jerk go! that is unheard of.. If you're really important to him then he won't even consider thinking about maybe even beginning to let it cross his mind to leave you because of that. It sounds like you have some insecurities... The first time i try things, i tell him that i may need his help directing me so that i can do it how it feels best for him. Maybe you shoudl just be honest with him. He may even enjoy getting to show you exactly how he wants it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): dont be scared being on top is the best part u actually get more horny and it is much fun and ur partner enjoys it more so get on top and have fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Are you afraid of other positions too? My advice, If you're comfortable enough to be having sex, you have no need to be self conscious. I think you'll find that you enjoy it
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Yes a man should leave you for not riding him. Whats the big deal, get on top of your man and ride him. What girl doesn't ride her man. Maybe you can't do it. Get a pillow or something that resembles your man and learn how to do it. Practice, practice, practice. Practice makes perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): I dont like to be on top just because its not comfortable on my knees - the sex is great though! I still dont feel too comfortable generally either though as he is a lot thinner than me, but hell, life is too short so i hop on, as they say! if you want to do it, maybe have a glass of wine before hand, calm the nerves, take off the edge? Turn off a light? Keep a slip on? If you just dont want to do it, which is also fine, then you shoud tel him and explain it to him. If he is any sort of a good man he'll not keave you for it, you'd have to be real shallow for that - and if thats the case, he isn't worth your company to begin with!good luck!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Why does that scare you I wonder? But I could not imagine somebody leaving you for something like that. Maybe you can be in the missionary position and then have him hold you and roll you over up on him??? Just a thought.
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