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writes:hi, so i met this guy for the pass 6 months and from day 1 he seem like he like me and we will spend hour talking and getting to know more about each other. but since day 1 i knew he had a girlfriend and he know i knew about it through my sister (he and my sister are best friends) every time we talk and stuff i would bring up topic for him to talk about his girlfriend and he would avoid talking about her.he only told me that he got engage to her. i'm really confused cause i really like this guy inspite of all this man drama and at this point in time i feel like he's my boyfriend cause he does everything like a boyfriend and i like it. last month i told him how i feel about him and he said he like the fact that i told him that cause he's attracted to me as well.so since then he's trying hard for us to get closer but i'm confused because what if he stays with his girlfriend who he got engage to while he is getting closer with me. my question is should i stay away from him cause i might end up getting hurt or does he really like me and something could come out of this(a relationship)???
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Ok - to put this quite simply - men who cheat never leave their girlfriends/wives for their other woman, you are just his bit of fun on the side and he will marry this girl and never ever will be with you.
I know it is hard to accept because you like him but he is just using you, he wants to marry this girl so clearly he is madly in love with her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. The reason he is avoiding telling his fiancee about you is because he is a cheat - he wants to have his fiancee happily carrying on with the relationship while he gets whatever else he is missing from you.
Nothing good will ever come of this and you will be the one that gets hurt - so please, end this now and save yourself from any further heartache. He is engaged to be married, he has found 'the one', he doesnt want you - he wants her. If he wanted you then he would have left her ages ago and would have started a relationship with you. But this never happened so clearly he does not love you, care about you or want to be with you.
So please, stop this now as it is not fair to his fiancee. He is an awful, awful person to hurt 2 women like this, but you can put a stop to things and make sure you are not actively taking part in hurting people like he is. If you are happy to be his bit on the side then you are no better than him - imagine how hurt his girlfriend would be if she found out what had been going on. She agreed to marry him, she must love him so much so to find out your future husband is cheating will be heartbreaking.
Just end it now, cut all contact with him and move on. It is the right thing to do.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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