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writes:Hi!!!I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years and a half and I am 18 now, and he just turned 20. I know that he loves me and I love him too. There is only one problem...I am afraid for our future. I know that I am young but I am very goal oriented and am taking Mechanical Engineering at school, but he is not going to school at all. I am not the kind of person that judges people that do not go to school. My only problem is that he actually has NO idea of what he wants to do with his life. He recently quit his job because it was too much work on his body, and the thing that scared me is that he only thought about looking for another job when he was done all of his money. That just doesnt make any sense you know...The thing is that I have talked to him about getting an education and he said tht he was looking for what he wants, but I dont want to be the annoying gf that is always reminding him of school. Especially because we are not married.Is it right for me to talk to him or should I just let him grow up on his own?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you CaringGuy and that is my problem...I dont want to wait 10 years only to find out that he won't grow up at all...and he does listen to me when I tell him stuff...the problem is that if I dont tell him anything he wont do anything...and I am not his mom..I am his girlfriend...
I dont know if I should keep telling him what to do, since he never really had anyone to tell him what to do (messed up family drama), or should I just let him make his decisions on his own.
Thank you for answering...I am supeer confused!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 January 2010):
This is a bad sign. Quitting a job because you want to get a different one is one thing. Quitting a job because it's 'too hard on his body' and then sitting around is another. He doesn't sound all that reliable. A guy won#t change unless he wants to change himself. And it doesn't sound like he wants to change himself. You could be waiting years for him to grow up. And he may never grow up. You need to think carefully about what you want from life.
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