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female
age
51-59,
*Sxtra
writes:Will my boyfriend ever get over a one time fling I had with my neighbor, it happend when we broke up a few years ago? Am I wrong in thinking that he can overcome this? I love him so much, will he get over the hurt and come back to me? He tells me he needs time,will this help or hurt?I hope someone has some answers, as I do not know what to do.I also have a bad habbit of continuing to try to contact my BF I think this is making my matter worse, but I just want to hear him and talk to him, it reassures me that he is trying. Do I need to totally STOP all of this andleave him alone until he decides what to do?VERY SADMSxtra
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reader, dangerouslove.  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 If it was only a one time "fling" with your neighbour.
I'm sure that if your boyfriend loves you, he will get over it eventually. He needs time to think it over, but he will come to his senses. Try not to contact him as much as you are currently doing. A phone call every now and then wouldn't hurt. But all the time is not allowing him to have any space to himself and to think. A good thing to do would reassure your boyfriend that this was a mistake, and it will never happen again. In one way or another - you have to prove this. Actions speak louder then words. I'm sure he is very confused at this point. Give him time to clear his head. If he doesn't go back to you in the end - Your mistakes will only be too blame. If you knew it was just a "break" and not an actual "breakup" you shouldn't of had a fling with your neighbour. The one question in his mind is probably, "I thought she loved me" If you do love him, let him know! But, we all make mistakes whether there forgivable or not. We're only human. Tell him where you stand.
Take care!
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