Will he ever make his mind up? Should I wait until he does?

Okay I will try to make my story as short as possible. I went out with this guy for one year last year. We broke up in December so it's been about 6 months since the break up. He always texted me about twice a month asking me how i'm doing. Sometimes I would respond hoping it will lead to getting back together and sometimes I wouldn't respond thinking all he wanted was to be friends, but unfortunatelly I cannot just be friends with him because I still have feelings for him and being friends with him would just be too hard and make it harder for me to move on. About 2 weeks ago he texted me again as usual to ask how i'm doing and I decided to answer. I told him I had a bad relationship experience. Texting was getting annoying so I called him to talk easier and we ended up talking for an hour and he asked me to hang out that night and I accepted it of course. So that was the first time we hung out after the brek up which was about two weeks ago. When I got to his house he gave me a long hard hug. Since I live an hour and 15 from him now because I moved with my mom, I decided to sleep for a couple hours before I drove back. And of course I slept in his bed next to him. He was all over me, hugging me and cuddling but I did not let him kissed me or anything just cuddling. I could tell he had a good time hanging out with me and he asked me to hang out again the very next day but I told him I couldn't because I live too far to be driving there again. So ever since we've been talking and texting. The week after we hung out he asked me to hang out again and I said no because I didn't think this whole being friends thing was going to work. Because he told me he is not looking for a relationship that he just wants a girl to hang out with and if he happends to hook up with her then it happends and that he just wants to enjoy life and have fun because he's too young. He's 22 and i'm 21. I am NOT looking for something casual like that so that's why I told him that there was no point for me to keep hanging out with him because we're looking for different things and he was very persistant that we should hang out again. He said trust me everything will be fine just come hang out please. So thinking he might change his mind about what he wants I went and hung out with him. We ended up hooking up but not sex, I didn't let him even thought he wanted to. He said we've only hung out twice, it's too soon for me to ask you out. So here I am, knowing that I want to be with him already. I told him that I can't keep hanging out with him and hoping he'll decide to be official like an idiot. And i can't just go and do my own thing while we still talk everyday because if i keep talking to him i just can't move on, it makes it harder, but on the other side i don't want to keep waiting and wondering. What should I do?? Keep waiting?? Or tell him to call me when he decides???

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