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writes:Well, I don't even know where to start.I was married and while going through a divorce, I met someone online. We clicked instantly. I saw his photo and I liked him.He saw me and thought I was pretty, so of course that's how it started. We've been having online relationship now for 4 months.Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's not but believe it or not, I never thought that you can develop feelings for someone you met online in the same manner as you would for someone that you just met in person. Strange but true. Anyway, when we met I told him about my situation. He wasn't elated about it. I even have a son, who is 8. However, I am very devoted to whatever it is that we have.The main issue we have is that he has a hard time in trusting me because of my prior marriage.It takes him very long time to do anything. As a matter of fact, he just got a cam in February.I've done everything to prove him that i mean well but no, he doesn't trust me. He will not share a photo of him by e-mail, no phone number, etc. He also tells me that he never had a girlfriend or sex and he is supposedly in his mid 30s. About two weeks ago, I was ready to let it go for good.I stopped logging in and wasn't taking his calls. He kept on sending me messages and calling me. I finally said fine after 3 days. So i'm back in my trap, where I feel madly in love with him but nothing in return. Yes we talk and he is the same. He is honest but doesn't give in for some reason.What would you do? How do i turn around this person? Do you think he will ever let me in his world? Do I even mean anything to him?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (15 March 2009):
 I'm in complete agreement with jezebel527 -- IMO, he accepts the whole package (meaning you AND your son) or none of it. I am also confused on how you are communicating with him...
Personally, I think this is the lost cause you thought it was two weeks ago, but second-guessed your way back into it. Go with your first hunches here and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): So you have never met this man in person correct? How can you be sure he is who he says he is? Have you spoken on the phone? I am confused, is the computer the only way you communicate? Anyway you do not want to get yourself in a situation where someone is going to punish you for your past relationship. Who is he to not trust you because you were once married? Thats crap. It sounds like he already thinks he is better than you somehow. And he is 'not elated' because you have a son? Listen sweetie, sounds to me like this man doesnt want you for who you are. Wouldnt you rather be with someone who did? I mean it doesnt seem like you are benefitting from this relationship at all! Life is short, move on to someone who deserves you.
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