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writes:im nearly 20 as is my now ex boyfriend of 2 years. as far as i was aware we were very happy together, i loved him so much and he was everything to me, and i thought he felt the same. he was still saying he loved me and everything else when he broke up with me but in truth he had been seeing a girl of just 16 and he was planning to go out with her and telling her he loved her and calling/texting her etci was sure we were meant for each other and i miss him so much and i wonder if he came back we could move on but i dont think he will come back and he wont even talk to me as if its my faultdo i wait, do i forgive him if he comes back, he wont even talk to me, what do i do? i miss him so much but hes hurt me alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): If he hurts you he is likely to continue to. If he cheated once he can do it again. Is this what you want?
You could find someone who instead of hurting you, made you happy. Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Despite how you feel, how much you're hurting, how much you love him...you have to see that the way he has done all this is a clear message that he isn't treating you right...
the fact that he's now pursuing a 16 yo also tells me he is not very emotionally mature. He may not be a bad guy - but he's probably not someone you can "rely" on in a relationship right now.
I don't think you should give him a second chance...you should give yourself one...the chance to find a guy who will communicate with you, respect your feelings and love you!
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (21 May 2008):
 truth hun your better off without him, in time your heart will heal and you will look back and think im glad im not with someone who was seeing girls behind my back..ive had that feeling you think that this is the one and one day you realise you were wrong and torture yourself thinking was it my fault and the biggest thing you got to remember is that it takes two to tango.. it seems uve been dancing yourself..personally if it was me i wouldnt give him a second chance he had one and he blew it on a 16yr old so he can get lost..i know you miss him but give it time hun it will pass..do things that make you happy be with ppl who you can enjoy being with and with time it will sort itself out. thats my opinion A xx
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reader, Hotstuff_405  +, writes (21 May 2008):
no, you move on dont wait for him because you may miss out on another person, I know how it feels when you lose someone dear to you, but the best thing to do is to just live well and accomplish things in your life, because life doesnt stop when your boyfriends leave. I mean he moved on...it may take some time but life goes on.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 My Dear Friend,
First of all, you need to understand that "You are Good" and "He is Not" ..
Look, I know you love him a lot and there are only 10% chances that you take my Advice, but, I would SERIOUSLY RECCOMEND that you do...
You should "not" expect him to be back.. Infact you should call him and tell him how happy you are to be ALone than be with a Cheat like him.. TRUST ME YOU WOULD FEEL BETTER..
"ONCE A CHEAT, ALWAYS A CHEAT" .. Go by it my friend. It's as true as it gets... You don't want to be Hurt by the Same guy over the Same thing in future.. Do you..?
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