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anonymous
writes:Me and my bf had been going out for 6-7 months. I got pregnant pretty quickly but everything seemed to be going good between us. Then a few months ago he started to change and seemed distant. i always foned him but he neva bothered to phone me. at the beginning he asked me to move in with him but then he kinda changed his mind, saying he couldnt picture me living with him. (but he gave his friend a pair of keys??!!)anyway i broke up with him but he was upset and sed he would change so i took him back. he changed for about a day then he was back to usual self. then he asked for a break so that made me think that he didnt want to be with me anymore, aswell as asking me if i thought we would stay together when the baby was born and if we were going to split up. so i got fed up and dumped him again. i expected him to phone and apologise. i kinda wanted to fone him but my friends/family said he'll phone you if he wants you.he didnt for about 2 weeks so i thot that was it then he fones out of the blue asking if i would go to his house to talk, so i dont know weather to go or jst stay away. i dont want peolpe to to think he can walk over me and take him back asif i'm desperate for a bf but i still love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): I think you should talk to him as it is not just about your relationship it is about your childs aswel. I would say you shouldn't get back with him but tell him that you can deal with him not bein consistant in your life as your nearly an adult. But he is not doin it to your child. And he has 1 shot to be there for your child and if he lets you down he is gone out of both of yours lives. Because to be honest you don't need someone like that around. As they will only hurt you and your baby. He obviously has no fight or drive to want to be with you or your child so my advice to you is to talk to him but stay well clear of him in and intimate way as he is obviously immature and selfish. And your a mother now and you cannot let him do the samething to your child. Because every child deserves its father.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Talking is good... talking at his place is probably bad. Have him come around to see you at your place or meet him someplace on "neutral ground" (coffee shop, restaurant, etc. -- something not too loud though).
No matter what, be firm on what you'd want if you decide to accept him back into your life. You are holding all the cards here and it's him that needs to step up and accept some responsibility here (IMO).
Good luck.
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