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writes:im dating a guy who has a girlfriend already he's been with her for about a year and i knew but i let my feelings get in the way and i told him i wanted to be his girlfriend too. so we been dating a while im really falling for him and want him to leave his other girlfriend and be with me. i dont know if he feels as strong about me i know he really likes me but whats a month and a few weeks compared to a year. i dont want to let him go but either way it goes i think ill be hurt in the end. do you think he will choose me in the end? or should i just let this go? should i wait a little longer before asking him to leave his girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Sorry to say this, but he's not going to leave his girlfriend and why would he? He's having the best of both worlds. Things like this always end in disaster and becideds why in the hell would you want to be in a relationship with a guy who cheats on his girlfriend. Even if he did leave her what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing to you because i can pretty much guarantee he would. Get rid of this guy, i know it's hard, but it will be even harder the longer this carries on. He's NOT going to leave her for you, you are just a bit on the side to him. Sorry to sound harsh but i HATE guys who use girls like this when they know full well they are never going to leave their girlfriend and just string the other girl along for their own needs. Get out there and find a guy who respects women and who wants to be with you and only you. You can do it it just takes one step. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Unfortunately, sometimes people care about more than one person so I don't doubt he has feelings for you. This is a hard situation and currently one that I'm in as well, except for before anything happens I'm going to stop it. I honestly can't see this ending well for you so I guess it's your choice, you can either end it now or let it go on possibly having her find out and whole thing come crashing down. The truth always has a way of coming out. She will find out and he will do everything he can to smooth things over with her. What's done is done and you can't undo it but start making it right from here. You deserve a man who wants to be with you and only you, you shouldn't have to fight for anything. I don't think any less of you for giving into your feelings....we have all done it but you need to take the high road, you will feel better about yourself in the long run. Best of luck!
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reader, katie72  +, writes (30 June 2010):
You know he has a girlfriend and yet you've carried on having an affair so to speak with him. Why would you do such a thing ? put yourself in that girls shoe's would you like it done to you ? why are you going after someone who is already in a relationship ? I suggest you call it a day before somebody gets hurt but after a year it's not going toi be easy. your being used it's sex on tap for him and thats all you will ever be you have already asked him to leave his girlfriend and so far he hasn't find somebody else who isn't going to cheat on you cause just remember he was cheating when he met you and everyday when you dont no where he is you will be wondering who his with !!! it will never work
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Im not sure if i read it right but is this guy cheating on his girlfriend with you?honestly, you can do better. Lets say he does choose you.He's already cheated once, why wouldn't he do it again and cheat on you with someone else?Does his girlfriend know about you? Were you aware he had a girlfriend?Either way it looks pretty bad. Why do you want this guy so much? He's cheating so i cant see what is good about him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 June 2010):
I think he's a man who is having his cake and eating it. You're being used, his girlfriend is being used. Even if he did leave her for you, the chances of it working out between you are roughly 12% or so. It's a well known fact that most men who cheat and leave their partner to be with their mistress go on to cheat again or leave the mistress. Also, if it comes out that you've stolen another woman's man, you'll be seen as very untrustworthy. No woman will trust you, and other men might get the idea they can use you as well. Don't cheapen yourself and hurt yourself by going out with a man who is willing to cheat on his girlfriend. He's not worth your time, and you'll be the one who comes off worse in the end.
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