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writes:After coming out of a 5 year relationship, I have finally given dating a try to start afresh. I recently met a guy on a dating website and we got chatting and found out we shared a lot of things in common. We chatted via email everyday for three weeks until we both decided that we should meet up. So we go for some drinks last Saturday and get on really well. He asked me for another date before our first date had ended and we both kept flirting constantly with each other.We arranged to meet up this friday to see a film and again it went really well but I felt more nervous than on the first date and I think he could sense that too. It was a pleasant night and as he went to get his train he kissed me on the lips and hugged me. He later text me saying thanks for another cool night. Perhaps I was too forward kissing you, if so then sorry, let me know you got home ok ,sleep well. i text him back saying i wanted more kissing, thought you werent interested lol. let me know you got home ok. wished i'd asked you back to mine". he then text me saying although there are no rules the rule is not to invite a guy back after two dates lol only kidding, sleep well and speak soon. He told me he would text me pics of this snowboarding event he was going to and he text me two pics last night but he hasnt mentioned anyting about meeting up again. I know Im overanalysing but he also emailed me everyday but he hasnt since this fri. I emailed him today saying i had a nice time and hope we could meet up again soon so Im just waiting now to see if he will reply. I know I shouldnt be dwelling and im behaving really insecurely but I really liked him and got the impression he did too. But im scared of rejection and I know itl probably hurt my self esteem if he didnt ask me out. Im just not clued up on the dating rules since being in a 5 year realtionship so Im not sure what I should be doing right now without making myself look even more foolish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Yay!! Have fun!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to let everyone know he emailed me today asking to meet up this week! Im all ok now! yeee! lol only joking im playing it cool....ahem Thanks guys xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Dear -WAIT!Its the hardest thing in a courtship.Rome was not made in a day.
While you are waiting ,
in his absence: * check your account every second for his mails
* chew your nails umpteen times
* Take a chair and sit by the phone
* Keep reading his old texts and mails
* Hug your cat/dog
* Listen to sad romantic songs
in his presence:(this is the important part)
* act confident,sexy as if you didn't miss him too much.you don't have to act arrogant as that might put him off.
* act nonchalant
Do not make any further contact till he does.If he doesn't its his loss.There are lots more out there where he comes from!!.Take care!!
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (27 October 2008):
I think you're right that you are over analysing.
Maybe he's a bit busier now than before? I know I sometimes go for days without contacting someone, but then contact them a lot for another few days.
Maybe he felt that he had to keep the dialogue going before, but now he knows you like him, he's relaxed a little.
He might like you a lot and be attempting to play it cool.
Only time will tell I'm afraid...
Hope it goes well.
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reader, willb1980 +, writes (26 October 2008):
even though it may be hard, try and appear as casual (though interested) about it as possible! dnt send him txts saying how you werent sure he was interested or anything else negative, keep it light and fun and he is sure to carry on seeing you! he may not hav the time or the will to contact you every day, but that doesnt mean he isnt interested it just means he has a life outside of the dating website. there are no rules, everyone plays a different game. just keep things fun, enjoy yourself and see where it goes!
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