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writes:hello,i need to explain what happened before you can help me!..i work on a militry base behind a bar and i love my job,last sept my dream guy walked into the bar and started to chat..to shorten this tale a little..he was posted in for 8 weeks and for 8 weeks every night apart from weekends (he went home) i would sneak into his room and leave early morning a not to get caught..he is married with 3 young children.he did all the chasing.no phone numbers were exchanged we never spoke about home life.he then had to leave and i had to come to terms with the fact i may never see him again..(he lives 3 hours away from me)..only last week he came back for a job for 1 night only and seeked me out..i nearly fainted..of course i spent the night with him and we agreed to meet the week after for 2 hours as he was pasing through..he confessed he missed me so much and was pleased he was there..he came out of his way for 2 hours to see me..we have never said we loved each other its all been fun and sex and we say how much we miss each other but no heavy chats..now he gone again...i am 42 and so is he..i am single..my question is ..will he be feeling the pain of mising me as much as i miss him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou steve it helps getting a males point of view...maybe now i am realising that yes i have been a fool and it was me who gave him the cake to eat!! thankyou
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reader, called Steve +, writes (17 March 2010):
 There is a difference between missing you and missing you - he misses the rush of cheating on his wife and making out with you as you seem to have pretty much made it easy for him.Then there is the missing his wife and his children - what do you honestly think he'd do?He is using you for sex - simple as. Feeding you the age old line of "yeah yeah course I love and miss you".I could of course be totally wrong and he is genuine but the fact that you made it so easy for him I dont think its his respect for you that he's coming back for...Sorry - Steve
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Theres just no way of knowing to be honest. If you want me to guess I'd say no because he's married and men can walk away very easily with little or no emotional attachment...but only you know him, so maybe you should ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know many people will be fuming at me and screaming at the screen "you fool"..i did not go out looking for this it happens and it happened to me..do i want any thing from this? that is the real question here and my honest answer would have to be yes i want the fairy tale but in the cold light of day i KNOW that is not going to happen...my question really is will he be feeling a down as i am atthe prospect of our paths never crossing again?..he was very open and said him self he misses the connection we have...the emotion..the cuddling he misses all that..is it just patter?..we did not always have sex when together we just sat and enjyed each other..
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (16 March 2010):
Possibly!...what are you hoping for from this liason?
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 He's married with 3 kids..and you ask if he'll miss you. It isn't that he'll miss you or won't miss you..its the fact that he's married! Do you always want to be the other woman? The booty call?? Because the odds are not in your favor of him leaving his family for you. Yes, he'll probably miss you, but is that REALLY enough for you?? To be missed but not first in his life???
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