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writes:I wrote recently bout my boyfriend of eight months not seeing me much. I then had a chat with him where he told me he loved me and wanted a future with me and wanted to live with me one day. Then only six days later he has finished the relationship, saying he really loves me, will really miss me, loves everything about me. But just wants to be on his own for now. He said hes probably making the biggest mistake of his life and will probably be calling me in a couple of months begging me back. But wants to sort his life out ,job and money, and needs to do it on his own. That was 2 days ago havent heard a thing from him.Im devastated and dont understand. Does anyone think he will be back ? I am getting on with my life thinking that he wont. But how confusing it all is.
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reader, jabey +, writes (13 December 2006):
jabey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou to all the answers I recieved, they helped. I have surprised myself by coping well with this ending. I have decide I will not contact him, even to be friends because I know he will be my friend and I just wont cope with seeing him purely in that way. I need to be totally over him to be able to have a friendship with him. So clean break it is. The bottom line is if he really does love me and want me he will be back, and if he does not he wont. In the meantime I will carry on with my life cus if he isnt the man for me then there obviously is someone special out there waiting for me. Thankyou again.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 December 2006):
 My apologies, I have no idea why that posted so many times?
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 December 2006):
ummmmmm...Move along.
either A....he cant make up his mind
B....Hes insane
C....the other girl he had his eye on said yes and so you lost.
Either way.....you win.
And on the off chance that he's just wanting to get everything perfect so that he can really devote himself to you....you won't do yourself any good pining or hoping. If it is going to happen it will.
But, you should move along and not give him much thought....you are doing the right thing.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 December 2006):
ummmmmm...Move along.
either A....he cant make up his mind
B....Hes insane
C....the other girl he had his eye on said yes and so you lost.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 December 2006):
ummmmmm...Move along.
either A....he cant make up his mind
B....Hes insane
C....the other girl he had his eye on said yes and so you lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): Okay: he obviously DOES care for you. AND he has issues of job, money, his life, to sort out and needs to do it on his own. You start from there.
He told you he may well be making a big mistake and calling you in a couple of months. YOU are saying its been two days and "I haven't heard a thing from him."
Heellloooo! Look at what he told you!
You are doing the right thing by getting on with your life. He KNOWS you miss him - no need to tell him. If you want what is best for both of you, see where you both are a couple of months from now. You COULD maybe send an email saying that you understand where he is coming from, and what he's trying to deal with, and that he has your support. If you can feel you genuinely mean it, that is. Then, having sent that one message, leave it alone! Don't contact him again, but as I already said, get on with enjoying your life as an independent, realistic young woman, and see where he is in another couple months!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): Its really confusing actually...and in a way its not fair on u...maybe he has a point..maybe he wants to grow up abit n get back to u..my advice to u wud be to call him..n ask whether u both can still be mates n hang out now and again but purley as friends. Tell him, u will give him time and if things were meant to be itll work out..tell him ull always love him n da u still want to be mates. if he doesnt agree...then my dear...do ur own thing...its hard n it can get a bit ruff...bu do it...u dont need a man to depend on...u love him..yes...but need him to live ur life..NO!..live ya life woman..u can do it...he'll see or hear da ur doin welll..prob even wid a new man...n he'll cum bak...bu defo dnt jump onto the next man jus yet...like i sed..INDEPENDANT WOMANNNNNN!!!! CURMONNN!!!!! (this is all frm my own previous experience..trust me) good luck...God bless u and urz..friend x
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reader, chibijess +, writes (10 December 2006):
 This, honestly is very confusing. Your doing the right thing by trying to carry on, but i know the feeling that in the back of your mind that no matter what your trying to do your gonna be trying to work this all out.
And i do not blame you. I, once again, know how it feels for a guy to say one thing and do the complete opposite, but i would wait and hold on to the shimmer of hope he has left you, because he wouldn't have said those things if he did not mean them, but do not spend all your time dwelling on him. Give him a few weeks and ring him, just to see how he is. To show him you are there for him still.
Hope that helps hun
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