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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My husband and I have lots of problems and I just recently had a child. My husband has lots of lying issues and verb. abussive towards me..we my question is..I havent had sex in almost 6 months and I dont want to mess around with just anybody would it be stupid of me to have sex with him and would he get the wrong impression..that everything is ok between us? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Hmmm... You do not want to have sex with just anybody and I presume it is because you hold yourself in high regard and value your body, as you should. You do not wish to have a cheap fling; you are above that.
Have you considered it this way?
If things are going wrong with your husband and you do not have the emotional connection with him most people try to have with their husbands, isn't it the same thing? Is this sex a statement of love or affection or is it a way to alleviate some stress and "scratch an itch"? In that case, having sex with him is the same as having it with “just anybody”.
I think you send a message when you have sex with someone who is verbally abusive to you. You tell them it is ok to treat you that way.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009):
The impression I am getting is that you are reserving the right to be the victim and have grievances and dont want anyone to lose sight of that.
Sorry but I dont see how you get around jumping on top of him forming the impression that the ice is cracking in the silent treatment.
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