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writes: Hi Aunts and Uncles ;) I am 35 year old teacher from Europe- happily married and with no kids. In summer I get to have a month off school. I have been in love with NYC ever since I was a kid and have been going there quite frequently since. So: the idea for next summer would be: I would go to nYC on my own for two weeks while hubby is home working and then we would meet in Miami to spend two weeks together. He is super excited about this because he loves me and knows I love NY and of course I am over the moon. Yet- is it okay to spend two weeks aparta? I mean- I could only go to Miami with him and be with him for two weeks instead of being in NY. Do you think going on vacation on my own would doom our relationship? Thanks!!! Besos!! :) Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (22 December 2015):
I'm curious. Why on earth do you think that being apart from your husband for a mere two weeks would doom the relationship?
It might spell doom if your relationship was already on the rocks or your husband was especially insecure and clingy, or possessive and controlling, or if he was a serial philanderer. But your post describes a very healthy relationship.
Lots of couples I know spend some of their holiday time enjoying separate pursuits. Some people find it actually strengthens their relationships as they feel more fulfilled as an individual.
It's only two weeks and it's not something that you do every month. What are you worried about?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 December 2015):
Why would it doom your relationship? Many people are able to keep their relationships going despite long military deployments or extended business travel. Other relationships fail despite the individuals being together everyday.
If you are happy, he's happy and you have a solid relationship then by all means, enjoy your time in NYC.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 December 2015):
Sure why not?
If you and your husband are OK with this, what's the problem?
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