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Will my true feelings interfere with us being "friends with benefits"?

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Question - (24 November 2008) 18 Answers - (Newest, 25 November 2008)
A male Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Just recently my best friend had suggested we have a friends with benefits with her and I accepted. We're both 16 and know about safe sex and everything but there's one problem, I've always liked her more than just a friend but never told her.... Should I keep it to myself? or tell her I didn't tell her before because I knew a lot of guys liked her and me, I'm just another one of those guys. We're both really comfortable with each other and I always hang at her place so what I'm basically asking is will my feelings interfere with the fwb?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008):

I knew it! Good for You! Take the sex part slowly and just be yourself! In the beginning you both be awkward, but it will become natural eventually.

Sex can ruin a friendship sometimes, and your both very young. But if you're in love with eachother...I don't see how you cannot eventually get it on!

I love happy endings! You see, you weren't out of her league!!!!

Good Luck!

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A female reader, Asked Angel United Kingdom +, writes (25 November 2008):

Asked Angel agony auntI am soo pleased for you both you have no idea how much:). If you take things slow and it is both what you want i can't see why sex would ruin your relationship.

Good luck and well done for being brave enough and honest enough to say how you feel. Honesty is a brillant start to a relationship. Please try and never stop being honest.

xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008):

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to my surprise you guys were right XD -never doubts the internet again- she did have feelings for me but thought i didnt for her and since she trusted and loved me she felt it would help her get over me by having a fwb kind of thing....(lol...) but now she knows i feel the same way and starting this all over with a date this weekend no touchy touchy just getting to know each other (more then we do now)she still wants us to have sex though...will that ruin our relationship?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

Good Luck tonight! I hope it all goes well! And I had an idea that you felt she was out of your league. But maybe you are wrong about that. I sincerely hope she realizes what a good guy she has there!

Best Wishes!

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A female reader, Asked Angel United Kingdom +, writes (24 November 2008):

Asked Angel agony auntYou'll find a way i'm sure. Good luck and i really hope it all go's well xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

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its fine i think im gonna tell her tonight... she asked if she could come over to hang out and stuff but not quite sure how to t ell someoen youve loved them for along time but never had to guts too =.=

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

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its fine i think im gonna tell her tonight... she asked if she could come over to hang out and stuff but not quite sure how to tell someone youve loved them for along time but never had to guts too =.=

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A female reader, Asked Angel United Kingdom +, writes (24 November 2008):

Asked Angel agony auntI'm sorry i didn't mean to imply that your friend would be sleeping with other people. I just ment that if she does how would that make you feel, if you relationship means more to you than her.

Sorry if i wasn't very clear

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

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well now i figured it out stupid me to sumarize what i said on the other acount basically were best friends and to me shes out of my league shes popular beautiful and everything and she just seems out of my league im always with her i stay over at her place alot since we do alot tell each other everything hang out and stuf... no shes not doing it with other guys just me and its more of a trust thing she knows i wont hurt her use her in anyway....

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A male reader, nami3 Canada +, writes (24 November 2008):

OMG one more thing im currently logged onto this account because i cant figure out how to do a reply thing for after you get answers for your quesiton .... so i made one to answer to the replys K. done whew.... im not quite sure what to do... yet

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A male reader, nami3 Canada +, writes (24 November 2008):

OMGG i kepe fogetting to add them i mean iadd them after every reply see the next question and forget to add noather part well this is the last one its more like trust sex.. like we both trust each other very much and i guess she just wants to explore it with me....?

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A male reader, nami3 Canada +, writes (24 November 2008):

its just going to be with me (forgot to add)

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A male reader, nami3 Canada +, writes (24 November 2008):

no shes not sleeping with other guys O_O just me were like best friends...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

I read your question, and I read the replies, and I'm confused...I didn't get that feeling that she was sleeping with all the other guys, but if she is I would leave it alone. And if she's not, then she probably has feelings for you, as you have for her. And in that case, I would let her know how you feel. I didn't really get the impression it's Just casual sex. To me it sounded like sex with trust. I may be way off base, but that's what I read into it. If you could clarify this for us...maybe we can be more helpful!

Trust you instincts and be careful!

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A female reader, Teacake United States +, writes (24 November 2008):

Teacake agony auntCondoms break or come off... are you ready to chance being a father accidentally or end up with an std?

Its really sad to see how young children these days are getting mixed up in all this random sex. Sex is not just a physical activity. Your emotions will be stirred up in a way that you are too young to deal with. Casual sex also changes friendships into something worse than better, in the end. That's just my opinion.

I agree with eyeswideopen.

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A female reader, Asked Angel United Kingdom +, writes (24 November 2008):

Asked Angel agony auntI really think you need to be careful here. You have already said you like her more than she does you. Will you just be sleeping with each other. Or will she/you be having other partners and how will that make you feel?

I really think this is a bad idea for you i can see you getting really hurt.

Whatever you decide to do please make sure your safe.

Good luck xx

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (24 November 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think this is a very bad idea, but if you go ahead with it just make sure you wear a condom, sounds like she's pretty damn easy and you don't want any "gifts" she may give you. Friends with benefits is just a nice sounding way to say fuck buddies and somebody usually ends up hurt.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

i did that for a whole year.

it gets complicated.

i was left heart broken in the end

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