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writes:ive been married for 2 years and dating for 8 years and my wife has been going on face book for about 3 months shes been acting weired since then she keeps her mobile close to her chest when before she hardly use to go out with it ,i started to get paranoid so went into her facebook and seen loads of messgaes of a fella now they werent rude or implying anything but she didnt want me to see them also i found out she has this fellas number on her phone and kept it under a womans name shes since said that i would have gone mad if i had seen that the lad was txting her i beleive she hasnt cheated but not sure if i can trust her anymore any advive please . p.s we have 2 children and a mortgage.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 She may not be "planning" to cheat but she is sure putting herself in a position that quite often leads to cheating. Let's face it, platonic is platonic. If this guy is a buddy and she has no thoughts that are questionable, why hide the truth. If you are a jealous fool, she may have reason. If you are a reasonable guy and this has never been an issue, she is playing with fire. Why would she create an issue where none exists?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): My suspicions would certainly be roused if my boyfriend was storing a girl's name under a guy's name. I have heard that it is a tactic used by cheaters to try to avoid detection that they are, or are certainly thinking about, becoming intimate with that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Oh my god, this happened to me in the past. Yes, she is lining someone else up to cheat, sorry to be so blunt, but do ask her outright, or all of this will rip you apart. Get to know the truth and tell her to stop playing games because you are not going to put up with it any longer. She is a mum with a husband and she shouldnt be acting like a silly teenager, or slag. Talk to her and tell her that you want to know what the hell is going on or you are out of there for good, but i do feel so sorry for you. It hurts like hell, i have been there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): been in same situation my bf did the same to me. i couldnt trust him and didnt believe him untill he persuaded me to forgive him. so i tried my hardest to put it to the back of my mind but every message, every call i got suspicious. its not healthy to think that way all the time. i have two children with him and after a very long time we beginning to get things back on track however i dont think ill ever trust him completely. you need to do whats right for you and your kids.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Sounds like she is interested in the guy. I don't think people normally hide the existence of a person from a partner if that person is just a friend. Maybe you're a jealous man and that is why she is hiding his name. But it does sound odd.
More than having the phone number, what strikes me is the fact that she keeps the phone close to her all the time. Obviously she is waiting for his calls and wouldn't want to miss one. I guess that, if a friend calls and you can't answer at the moment, you just call later. That's what the "Missed Call" feature is for.
All in all, this is not conclusive, but it would make my suspect her.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Well it does sound odd. Storing a name under someone else's is always suspicious. However that does not mean she is cheating. I am a member of facebook and i have had some male interest, i choose to ignore it as i am on there only to meet up with friends that i have long lost contact with and for fun. Speak to your wife and express your concerns, it may be she just wants friendship and a laugh. I have male friends on facebook and this is completely innocent.
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