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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my husband for 6 years now, I am in my mid thirties and recently had an extreme increase in libido. I want sex all the time, I fantasize all day about sex, not only with my husband but with other men. I have even fantasized about flirting with my brother in law. I feel terrible and extremely guilty. I am very much in love with my husband and do not want to do something stupid to jeopardize my marriage and lose my family. We have amazing children and so much to live for together. He is the hottest man in the world for me, I just have the urge to experience more, definitely with his approval and hopefully together. My question is.. is this common? Will this cause problems between us later in life? Should I even mention anything or try to control this agony?
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Women are at their sexual prime between 35-40 (ish) Guys it is late teens to early 20's, .. so thats absolutely normal. Trust me - am there myself, except am not interested in any man but the one I have, ... but yep he has trouble keeping up with me lol.
I notice he never says no tho and I spose coz I keep it interesting, am always coming up with new things,and he is not about to want to miss out on a just about anything goes scene. I suggest you take all this built up libido out on your hubby, ..shock him, he'll probably love it.
Make the most of it too, coz in another 10 years you will probably find changing hormones will zap it all away again. For that reason, if you are happy with all else in your marriage, try not to let any sexual incompatibility that could arise get in the way, coz it is temporary and in 10 years your gunna want your good friend and hubby there whilst you veg out watching tv instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): Yes this is common. You are normal.
Every married guy fantasizes about other women, so you're actually just making everything equal in my opinion.
I say enjoy your awesome libido, and make a move on your husband every time you want it.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): While men reach the peak of their sex drive between the ages of 18 and 21 on average, Women don't reach theirs until around 30. I'd say what you're experiencing is completely normal.
I would talk to him. If you really love him, I wouldn't have sex with anyone else. Even if he says he'd be ok with it, chances are it will not bode well for your relationship. Talk, tell him your needs and hopefully he will be able to deliver.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 April 2010):
I'd talk to him. I'm sure he'd be up for trying more. You won't know unless you talk to him, and you do need to or you'll become more and more frustrated.
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