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writes:I love my wife, but now I just found out that my wife sucked the d__k of a 59 year old man in order to get a VISA to come the final time to the USA, the time that she met me and married me!I knew she wasn't a virgin, but I'm caught up on two things... the age difference she was 20 at the time and now it makes me question did she really marry me for my looks?We've been married 7+ years and have 1 kid together. Should I just forget about it? She wouldn't have a kid with me if she didn't like me, right? She gives me no other reason to believe else wise. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): Your question shocked me. It was so cold, judgmental and unloving. Oh, yes, and it was so superficial & crude.
Life is not that simple & who are you to judge another? You are not even taking everything into account. To reason well, we need to weigh up everything but you cheapened this woman & mother of your child and brought it all down to fellatio - as if that covers much!
What is really bothering you? Do you know? Are you sober? Are you kind? Maybe you are scared? Some fears have to be faced.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Jokes over, if you can't stop the images of him, then start seeing how she looks while your thinking about it. Doubt she looks happy and pleased, she probably looks more determined to get this done and get her visa. That old guy is lucky she didn't bite his dick off.. Get it didn't last more than a couple of seconds, quickly done, because she wanted the rewards, a life and a baby with a man like you. :)
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (24 February 2010):
I admire you for seeing the funny side! Chances are she gagged the whole time. She didn't do it for personal gratification so don't worry about it. 95% of the women you have dated have had oral sex with other men before you so why is this issue a big problem? If she had done this while married to you then I'd say you have an issue. This was before you so forget it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): Aunty BimBim: It was humor, I don't really find myself to look like Brad Pitt. More like a young George Clooney, only more handsome. I already got a little of the salt and pepper going.
Anyway, I'm torn on it, as I know without it we likely never meet and in not meeting we don't have our daughter, etc. So part of me is grateful for her determination.
It's just I can't get this old man's image out of my head. I keep thinking of her going down on Col. Sanders. Like in the Adam Sandler movie "But he's old! His balls are old!" I haven't said a thing to her about it, or even mentioned it bothers me lately, so no I am NOT going to victimize her again like that, just venting.
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (24 February 2010):
 I am amazed that you seem so truly offended by your wife's behaviour.
I don't know if you have experienced life outside of the comfort of your own home, but in many places in the world, life is cheap, and extreme on the best of days.
You should feel proud of your wife's determination to get that visa. HOW she managed to achieve it is secondary in many ways. I'm not condoning crime to get a green card, but if her only way into the US was a few minutes of self degradation, are you seriously going to blame her? What was her life like before? It must have been pretty bad musn't it, if she was willing to do that to escape to a better life.
This type of 'exchange' happens every day, in every country all over the world. She has been with you for seven years. Be happy.
I am intrigued though. What on earth possessed you to try to uncover this information? It has only made you unhappy.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 You think she might have married you for your looks? Who are you, Brad Pitt?
She went down on an old guy to get a visa, does that mean she wouldnt have got the visa if she hadn't? What of the 59 year old man that blackmailed her, who it would appear threatened her with not being able to return to the states if she didn't suck his D__k?
Your wife was only 20 for heavens sake. She was blackmailed, threatened, the age difference has nothing to do with it, the guy still would have been in the wrong if he was 20 as well, 30 , 50 or even 70. You wife was a victim, and it sounds to me you are going to make her a victim all over again.
I cant get over the fact you reckon she married you for your looks? For heavens sake, are you really that shallow and conceited?
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