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writes:My wife and I have been together for a year, recently she had a dream of her ex boyfriend. Her ex boyfriend and her lasted 4 months, she said he was a horrible boyfriend who treated her like crap, well, in the dream he came back from deployment, and told him she was married to me.She said she apologized to him, divorced me, and then went back to him, said it was a very realistic dream that when she woke up she thought it was real. She told me this a day later because she felt guilty she dreamed this. I was asked if I was mad or upset, I told her that it made me a little uneasy but that it was a dream, and I was not mad, or upset. I asked her if she still had feelings for him, she said no, that he was seriously a horrible person. I asked if there was anything that made her regret our marriage, she said absolutely not, I then asked if there is anything I should be worried about, she said no, that it would never happen, but that she still felt guilty for having the dream in the first place.I then told her that again, it was a dream, she can not control it, and that I was not upset. Now, the ex does come back from deployment next month. Our marriage and relationship before hand have been awesome and great. She always tells me I mean the world to her and that I am the best thing to ever happen to her.Now, I just started dwelling on this, and it does bother me some, it didn't at the time. Should I be worried?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 One of my hobbies is analysing dreams and I can confirm to you that to dream of an ex in the way your wife did is just confirmation to HERSELF that she is happy with you and her subconscious is boasting this to the ex especially as he wasn't good to her. You have absolutely nothing to worry about here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, honestly, after I posted this, I went to sleep and forgot about it. I knew I shouldn't have been bothered by it as I told her when she told me about the dream, I know we can't control our dreams.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (24 November 2008):
Dreams are a funny topic and something not very well understood.
I myself, am a sleep talker. Once when I was sleeping over my bf's house, I started calling out my ex bf's name. He got pretty upset, which is understandable. But the thing is, I have no feelings for my ex at all. So, speaking from the view of the person havign the dream of the ex, I hope I can assure you that your wifes dream didnt mean anything as well.
Why did we both have dreams of our exs if they mean nothing? Hmmm bit of a mystery, but why do we dream about eveyrthing else? Why do we dream that we get killed when in reality we dont? Ive had dreams of having babies when I dont even want babies at this point in my lie, I'm far to young. But in my dreams, i wanted to have babies and i did.
So I think you should trust your wife and know that it didnt mean anything more. Unless she has done something else to make you unsure about her true feelings, then i think it is pretty safe to say this ex wont get in the way.
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