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writes:My ex-girlfriend and I broke up 4 years ago after an on again, off again relationship that lasted nearly 5 years. Breakup was mutual and amicable. She met someone a few months later and they got married and now has child. I too met someone else shortly after and am in a relationship. I often run into my ex every few months or so here and there and if our eyes meet we simply say hi but generally avoid each other. Last night we were both without our significant other and we had a conversation for the fist time mostly catching up on our kids and stuff. But the whole time she seemed nervous and avoided looking me in the eyes though she was very friendly and cordial. I just don't know what to make of her not looking in my eyes. Does she dislike me? or feels she is cheating if she is talking to me?After our conversation she sat on a chair deep in thought (with a a frown). I am thinking perhaps I should not talk to her again. But again we have a lot of mutual friends and are bound to run each other at dinner parties etc.Am I over-reacting? Any insights as to why my ex wouldn't look me in the eyes when we talked.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 August 2011):
 I think you are overacting. She may have had a lot on her mind. If you can be friendly with eachother-consider it a blessing.
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reader, krit  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 short and simple---
shes doesn't wants to feel that way for you that she did once.
EYES are window to the soul and she doesn't wants to get you/her to get involved in any case. After a break up this happens as we get emotionally vulnerable and we dont want the significant other to take advantage of it.
Your relationship lacked something but still was good enough that you kept on to hanging to it for 5 yrs...
AN on/off situation relation leaves us mentally frustrated and sometimes its better to have the courage to end it sooner than later.
AVOID this mess and end things on good note instead of feeling bad for her reaction.
good luckk..
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (8 August 2011):
 You're over thinking this. She's your ex, you shouldn't give one action like this so much thought.
There could have been a million reasons, really. We couldn't even begin to guess.
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