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writes:Hi people! So basically, I live in a small town where there are only rumors of LGBTQ people. I'm about to start high school and i sort of want to come out about being bi.The high school I'm going to has a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance)and peer counseling that would probably support me, but im still afraid to come out. Mostly because of discrimination. I'm asian. I've already been bullied.I don't think coming out about being bi will make it any worse(nor better). I've also already told my sister and my closest friends; one girl kind of freaked out, another doesn't really care, and my guy friends are very supportive.i'm really confused about what I should do. I want to get it over with, but if i come out, I'm afraid that someone will bully my friends or my parents will hear about it (they're kind of against bi)Thanks for your help!
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reader, bronniedavis  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 I'd say only come out to people that matter! Once you are put to the people that have a right to care then you shouldn't even bother with others ! Its nobodys business what your sexuality is so you shouldn't feel so obliged to tell everyone, just tell the people that matter like your close friends and family, if you're afraid of telling your parents you could wait until you're a not older, at the age you are now they may not listen like you would like them to, but you could just say little hints when you're around them ! That's what I did and when I did actually just say I was bi they said they thought I was lesbian anyway :P
I did let the rest of my school know however and it just made things awkward around other girls because they didn't understand and didn't want to :P so like o said they didn't even need to know because ot wasn't their business !
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reader, ChocoApollo +, writes (10 August 2011):
ChocoApollo is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you very much for the advice. So far, I only have the support of 1 person ^_^"
There's a few certain people... they always come after me, but I think I'll be able to handle it.
Again, thanks for your answer and support. it really means alot to me.
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reader, scaredtodeath2121 +, writes (9 August 2011):
 i have had many friends with your problem, here is what i tell them. if you do it, ill support you, as long as you have many friends behind you who will help you get through it and as long as you join your gsa, most people honest to god WONT CARE! when one of my old friends (dont really talk to him anymore but still) came out as bi, only the people who were insecure about themselves or the really mean ones actually said anything... all the rumors about bullies, i mean in my school it wasnt a problem at all, idk how it is at your school, be careful. join your gsa (i love mine! im straight but i am a complete ally) and talk to the older kids who have come out... see what they say, if they say they didnt get bullied much go for it, if not, MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION, just remember dont do anything to put yourself in danger
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