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writes:My bf is upset because I have a lot of gay friends. He says he is tired of me hanging out with so many queers. Why are guys threaten by gays? or is it only my bf who is immature. I don't have the courage to leave him. I moved into this City because of him, and now I have no friends no family. I am afraid to start again, I am 33, single, with no kids, and a great career. Who am I going to find? My clock is ticking for the kids. All of my friends are marry with kids; if I break up, then I'll be adding myself to the long list of single ladies out there.... I feel such a looser...
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 He's probably jealous since they are just men, regardless of their sexual orientation. If they were str8 guys, he prob be even more upset. Reassure him they are only friends and you are indeed only interested in him and show him that by not just words, but actions as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): Hi. I don't think all guys are threatened by gay people. You mention your partner not liking the fact that you hang around with a lot of them but you don't mention whether they are male or female. Then you go on to say you have no friends. So who are these 'gay friends'? And what exactly is it about you being with them that your partner objects to? Whether he is being immature or not would depend a lot on what you do when with these people and how much time you spend with them. I imagine he has you with him because he loves you. But you are only with him because you need a place to stay. There is a dishonesty about that. So try saving to leave and find your own home. Being single is far better than being with someone you don't love and who isn't making you happy. With the right attitude, i am sure you will find someone you can love.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Don't paint all men with the same brush, it's incredibly misandrist to do so. What if a man came in here and said "Why are all women threatened by porn?" It's the same attitude. Not all people of one gender are alike.
Your boyfriend is a bigoted homophobe. Please take that knowledge in consideration when thinking about a long-term relationship with him. If you do end up having children, do you really want their father to teach them the same behavior? God forbid one of your children end up gay.
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