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anonymous
writes:I am at my wit's end. My roommate/ex-boyfriend has had terrible hygiene for as long as I can remember. He has not showered in over two months. Many people cannot fathom going that long without a shower, but I am not exaggerating when I say it has been two months. He also chews tobacco and does not EVER brush his teeth. They are yellow and disgusting, and he has awful breath. These reasons are the main reason why we are no longer together. I don't understand why someone can be this way. I have purchased body wash, a toothbrush, deodorant, etc., for him thinking this would prompt him to shower, but he does not. I've talked to him seriously, even resorted to teasing him a bit about it, but he does not take the hint. Even though we are not intimate, living with someone who does not take care of themselves can still affect a person. It is driving me absolutely insane. I'm wondering if any of you have any similar stories or advice. Also, should I worry that he may develop some kind of skin infection or bacterial problem because he never showers? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Everyone has bacteria all over their skin but this guy is taking things to a new level and quite clearly the smell gives away the fact that the bacteria is unhealthy to both him and all those around him. I would guess he is spreading germs and there are many contagious skin disorders that can be spread from contact so this is an important factor to consider when sharing facilities (bathroom, toilet, kitchen etc). You may have ground to evict but I'm not sure - I think you need to give him an ultimatum when you find out the facts. It is not acceptable to put up with this. If you cannot do anything I would suggest moving out if that is better for you. Don't suffer.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 October 2007):
 I'd be driven nuts as well. I've run into people like that before. I worked in a small store, I bet after she left it took half a day to get that smell out of there with candles.
I'd let him know, you need to lay down the rules. If everyone is one the lease or not, I'd check that. Let him know that these poor behaviors are not going to be allowed.
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