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writes:I am on match.com ... I wrote someone a quick note whose profile looked interesting. He wrote back this real long letter that was quite pleasant but ended with the statement that he wasn't on the site on a daily basis .and gave me his e-mail address. He had been on it for a couple of weeks before I decided to reach out. He send the email out late this afternoon, when I read the email and clicked onto his profile to reread it, his profile is no longer available.I wrote back a msg saying I was uncomfortable writing someone who has hidden his profile. I'm of the school that when someone blocks their profile, they are seeing someone, doesn't want them to know they are still on the site, but is still searching. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 July 2014):
 Yep, keep trusting your gut instincts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): I couldn't agree more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm the original writer/poster. I'm not responding. I prefer to exchange a few e-mails before giving someone an e-mail address, get a read of them. Plus I feel like he's hiding his profile for a reason ... like he's got someone.
I have experienced the situation of men wanting to line up a new girlfriend before getting rid of the current model. They want a sure thing before letting go. To me that's a weakness, an unwillingness or inability to be alone.
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reader, ImissFuturama +, writes (23 July 2014):
 I think if you feel uncomfortable, you should probably just stick to messaging guys who don't act shady. It would make me uncomfortable too, because I think they wouldn't do it if unless they have something to hide.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 July 2014):
 He's got SOMETHING to hide... or, has ignoble motives.
You'll be wise to "pass" on him....
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 July 2014):
I agree with WiseOwlE - trust your gut.
Can also be he had a free month pass to the site and handed out his e-mail to ladies who showed interest, hoping he could continue talking to them OFF the site.
I'd skip this one. If he SIGNED up to Match.com but isn't "on the site" often then what is the point? I agree it's sketchy to say the least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): Follow your gut, you could be right. He wants to keep his contact with you one on one. "Seeming to be offline," or temporarily leaving the site; doesn't mean anything accept he decided to take time-off, may be seeing someone, or joined another dating site.
You're a mature woman; so let your experience and wit guide you.
Look-out for scams or creeps who are trying to get your personal information to find his way to you. If you meet, meet him in public. Be very careful. Don't offer him your number or address. If he'd like to meet you in a public place, and formally introduce himself? If you feel comfortable with that, take it from there. Blocking his profile doesn't mean diddly!
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