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writes:I can't help but realize that everyone around me seems to have a significant other. I can't help but realize that I want a relationship more than I should... the more I want it the more it seems impossible. Why is it all the women nowadays have to do all the work? Whatever happened to tradition or old fashion dating, where the guy pursues the girl... now it's the other way around and if you're not up some guy's ass your not being noticed... It's not easy being me searching for a guy I have high standards which primarily consist of morality. I'm a virgin in college! I am totally fine with that... guys just seem to be so turn off by that... some how being a virgin makes me a baby too... so i just gave up all hope on finding a guy any time soon.... Is it true that when you least expect love is when it comes? Why is that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2014): The good old fashioned women were the best since they Accepted their men for who they were, especially when both men and women had to struggle to make ends meat. And today many women are Very High Maintenance and want a man with Money.
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reader, HeartswithRoses +, writes (13 August 2009):
People have forgotten what it was because its not discussed with their children or children's children..I never knew how my parents meet until I was in my late forties and now knowing the story it is a beautiful love story that I want to have...Currently, I'm seeing a guy that has decided that is how he wants to pursue our relationship, building it from the grown up of friendship, courtship, dating and the romance of a lifelong marriage relationship....
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reader, Twilight#1 +, writes (8 November 2008):
Twilight#1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank You! Bugs! You're such a good person for spending time to explain what you think. I totally thank you for all your links...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): I applaud you for setting such high standards for yourself.your parents have done a great job.
On the other hand seeing people all around in love can be depressing since you do not have a guy.I have read your other answer.You seem very intelligent.Instead of being in love and miserable its better to be lonely and happy.
The first thing to do to make yourself happy is love thyself.Take good care of yourself.Have a makeover.Get a new wardrobe.Have a great haircut.Start looking different.you will start feeling different.The kind of aura self confidence brings is very noticeable.Hold your head high,shoulders and back straight.If you are feeling miserable it shows.People love to be around happy people.If you have girls as friends spend girl time.Have a girl's day out.you will realize that you don't need a boyfriend to make you happy.
I noticed one other thing that you never called the competition(other girls) any bad names.Score one for you.When you don't hurt anyone else with out any reason,there comes a glow that is gorgeous.
If guys are turned off by the fact that you are a virgin its because you are in college.To put it bluntly,at your age guys are out to increase the notches in their bed posts.They won't be looking for virgins.A few years down the line most of the guys will be looking for girls with little or no experience at all.Trust me.Right now improve your GPA.Learn foreign languages.Find the best job that's possible.Remember in the best organization are most of the nerds/geeks who are much better in character than the "studs".I am talking from personal experience here.
Have you ever noticed that when you search for something very badly at home,you won't find it at that moment.But it will turn up when you are least looking for it.Love is like that too.When you search for it you are panicking that you may never find it.So even when its just in front of your face you may not notice it.Stop looking for it.you are relaxed and you will definitely notice it.It will find you.
By the way have you ever sat in a library with books all around you and not noticing anyone.Try it sometime.The best looking and the best behaved of the lot can be found there.Remember you are special and precious.There's a guy out there for you.He will definitely find you.
I have added a few links for you to understand men in general.Please do take time out and read it.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/question-for-the-guys---does-a.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/knowing-about-her-past-makes-me-feel-inadequate.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/-i-keep-thinkin-about-her-past-even.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/visions-of-her-past-sexual-history-haunt-meits.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-a-terrible-issue-with-her-past.html
Type in "her past" in the search box at the top left of DearCupid's page.check out the results.
A guy may deny it till he is blue in the face that a girl's past doesn't bother him but most of the time it does.I am not saying all guys are like that.But most of them are.
Take care.God bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): I'm a guy in college, and am a virgin as well. I have morals too. I will answer your question as best as I can;
I don't even care about pursuing girls anymore. Most girls about mid-late 20s and younger are immature and have an expectation for "bad boys," something I am not and never have a desire to be. I have had held onto my childhood dream to be a train engineer, and was made fun of in school. I came close to asking girls out, but was slammed pretty good. Eventually, I said f**k it altogether. If a girl really wants me, she can pursue me.
Different guys have different reasons, but that's the story of why I refuse to do things "the good old way."
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