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*awrgirl
writes:Dear Cupid,I'm a girl, and I've fallen for a girl who happens to be my best friend. Now,she's told me twice before that she's straight,she reads gay and lesbian romance stories, and has been flirting with me for the last few months, and telling me that she thinks I'm beautiful, she misses me, she wants us to live together, she likes it when I talk because she likes the sound of my voice yaddah yaddah. Only thing is, thinking that she was open to all this gay and lesbian stuff, I invited her to come along to a group for gay and lesbian people my age that I'm starting up, saying that even if she isn't gay, it would be good to have her there in case the whole thing is a flop. And I kind of wanted to try and make things progress. The thing is, she's told me that I need to understand that whilst she is ok with me being gay, she finds the whole gay thing uncomfortable, and she has difficulty coping with it and accepting it, but she's ok with reading quite graphic novels about two men/women having intercourse and so on and so forth because it's unique and cute in stories, but not in real life. She has also told me that she is not a part of that aspect of my life, and is concious to stay away from it. So the question is, now what? I'm obviously deeply upset, and I guess it's not an exaggeration to say heart broken because I really was quite smitten with her. I'm also unsure of whether she is saying that she can accept me or not, and I am also confused, because why would she spend time and effort flirting with me if she has difficulty accepting "the whole gay thing".Help.x
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (22 May 2010):
 hey this sounds like a difficult situation for you i can see why you would be so confused. There are a few reason that she could be acting like this, one if she may be in denial about her own sexual feelings towards women so she is pushing them away, if that is the case in afraid she may have to come to terms with it on her own. The other reason is not so nice but some people are flirts and enjoy attention whether it is from someone they are sexually attrached to or not. hope this helps =]
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reader, rawrgirl +, writes (22 May 2010):
rawrgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the question"she's told me twice before that she's straight" was meant to be she's told me twice before that she's bi sorry!
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