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writes:So let me get straight to the point. I went to a bar last night and got totally wasted and hugged on and held a guys hand that is friends with my brothers wife. Well i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 7 months and he got really mad when i told him, and told me i was probably lying to him... Welll i dont know what to do because i dont think i cheated but he is making it out to be like i did. I blacked out and i honestly dont remember even doing anything with the guy, and my sister in law would never let that happen, now my feelings are hurt because he said i lied to him. How can i try and smooth over this fight?
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reader, Midge  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Look, I wouldn't consider it cheating, but at the same time, she put yourself in a position that could have the potential to be disastrous! Its not up to anyone else whether to let or not let things happen to you because at the end of the day, you are your own person and you should be looking after yourself.
If it were me in his position I wouldn't be very pleased because of the situation you put yourself in. If you drank in excess and blacked out and cannot remember what happened, why should he believe anything you say? You cannot remember and your sister-in-law might not have been watching over you in the way that you hoped she would. Although there are sometimes signs that something has gone on, there isnt always signs to tell you. So something may have happened and you cant remember. This is probably how your boyfriend is thinking, and I can understand where he is coming from.
To remedy the situation, you are going to have to do some serious kissing ass! You are going to have to firstly mend your ways and promise him that you wouldn't put yourself in that position, and secondly, tell him that how you feel and that you were wrong etc etc. However, that isn't going to be enough. If he doesn't believe you, it's going to take time to let him build trust up again! But serious ass kissing in order here!
Good Luck!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Your sister would not let what happen to you? Not let you drink so much you black out?
I don't think she is the guardian angel you think she is.
If something happened, surely there would be signs.
But as for smoothing things out, the seed of suspicion has been planted and probably not for the first time. It is hard to get rid off.
If there was a way to get doubt out of a relationship, I would be making millions with a talk show. Only surefire way I know is not to cause the doubt in the first place.
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