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writes:Take a deep breath . . . i am wondering why an old girlfriend has contacted me?, after 26yrs has gone by, i still loved her at the time but she bunked off with another guy, so i had to leave, we was working together, it was the stress and strains of the job, in catering industry, but we have been in each others heads since, she got married to the guy and has 3 kids, from ages 5yrs to 24yrs, in her writings its say he been violent with her at a time prior to the kids, due to his insicurities, building into violence, but now he has mellowed down to just a miserable git, and the whole family feels his misery, due to him being totally insecure, from his previous family, eg, non contact with his previous children, for which he blames her, even though she never stood in his way, she stuck with him, throught the hell, she has become a slick business women through it all, and has many head demons' as she says from work and business dealings,....as i'm no psycologist, so why would she contact me now?, is it to make her feel better, i will help her all i can with the past memories etc,...whatever she wants to know......but at the moment shes very happy i'm talking to her, by email only,....
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (16 December 2007):
 perhaps she is looking for some sort of comfort? and because you were always good to her and i bet she knows you always will be if she wanted you to , she finds this greatly reassuring and you have to imagine honey at this point she will probably be feeling very insecure about herself too as well as her unstable partner. you could ask yourself questions such as does she reciprocate my love? but i feel this might be giving yourself a little false hope. and before you pursue your own happiness via your love for her if that is the direction you feel your relationship with her is heading make sure it is what she wants to. with this relationship she is in now she will be seeking any kind of love because she is not been giving it at home and will yearn for affection but it may only be because she is not getting any love at home. is that something you want to involve yourself in? but i suppose it really depends on you whether you love her enough to want her, to take on board her children and because they are his children to you will always have her husband in your life if he is abusive to her he might be abuse to you is this the kind of relationship you really want to particpate in if it is then she is a very lucky woman. but if so honey your only means of communication is by email that does not predict much for you both except that she wants some body to talk to her who will listen and show care. hope this helps you x
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reader, theothergirl  +, writes (13 December 2007):
I think the reason why she called you is probably because she realizes that you were good 2 her. maybe she still loves you or maybe wants to re establish some kinda frienship with you. talk to her and youll find out.
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