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writes:I really enjoy personal time with my husband. Especially when it leads to making love. I'm the kind of girl who would be just fine with doing that every day with him. I thought he enjoyed it too, but today after showering together I asked him if we could, and he told me having sex with me isn't fun. That was kind of a major blow to my self esteem and I don't know what to think... why would he say something like that all of a sudden? Maybe I'm just bad in bed and he was afraid to say anything about it? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): Is it possible that he has a much lower sex drive than you do, and having so much sex is what isn't fun?
Get him to clarify!
But in any case it wasn't good of him to say that like that. Forgive us men our many mistakes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013):
My wife told me the same thing many years ago. Our sex life ceased. We are still together, but I wish I would've divorced her right there and then. That's what I recommend you do before it's too late. You can try to spend the next umpteen years in therapy and trying to fix things or you can get out now and find a man who does want to be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): Ask him to explain. Tell him he can't drop a bombshell like that on you and expect you to just accept it, he needs to tell you what the problem is. You also need to realise that this is not your fault. You are obviously happy with your sex life, but if he is not it is his responsibility to tell you so you can fix it together. It takes 2 remember, so if it's not fun then it is also down to him. He should be teaching you the things he does like instead of hitting you with a cruel remark when you were asking him for more sex. Most guys would be thrilled with that, so I agree there is something strange about that.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 I think you have to come here because he won't be straight forward with you. It's not normal for a man to complain about a wife wanting sex with him every day. When a man is in love with his wife, he will be happy as long as she is happy. All that extra kinky stuff as in porn is not needed.
If there is a fear in man I would say it is the resentment of being sexually dependent on a woman. There is a possibility also that he is not enjoying marriage life. He feels marriage is for women, and it does nothing for a man. Another possibility is that he can't keep up with your libido so rather than admitting his limited performance, he shifted and deflected the issue onto you. I always find that in a relationship when the man is aware I have a higher sex drive than him, it all goes downhill from there. At the beginning they all say, "I wish I can be inside you every single day." Yeah right, it is almost always predictable that they won't want sex every day, after a while.
Men dread having a sexless marriage. They also dread not being able to satisfy a wife. If it's not fun, maybe because it becomes a chore. Yes, already for a newly wed couple. What are you going to do about that?
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