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writes:Why would my ex say all this horrible stuff about me? Hey I just found out that after my ex boyfriend broke up with me he was saying these horrible lies about me. We had a good relationship but he ended it when he got back into drugs. He was saying that he never loved me and that I used to stalk him all the time. He said that I sat outside his house in my car and all sorts of ridiculious stuff that anyone who knows me would think is just crazy. He also said that he just used me to get rides. Also after we broke up he was going to have his new girlfriend fight me. I don't understand why he would be so hateful to me when I never did anything but love him and when he is the one who broke up with me. Also the last time we saw each other he kept hugging me and telling me what a good friend I am. I was just wondering why he would make up so many hurtful lies about me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): It seems like after every breakup there is this time of competition for who was the villian and who was the hero. Nobody wants to be the villian! He knows he's a total screw up, but he doesn't want other people to see it. If he can make it look like he dumped you because you were awful, then he's the good guy and the city can sleep at night knowing that he's on the lookout for crazies like you. To everybody else but him(and maybe the new g/f), that sounds totally stupid, and they all probably know that he's an ass. The lies are just his pathetic way to justify his utter failure at being a boyfriend. It's so much easier to tell people you were nuts and ruined it, than it is to admit that you were good to him and he's a loser. Let him have his lame little spotlight, becase the only person its fooling is him. If you wanna show everybody that he's lying don't do anything. Your silence is all the defense you need.
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reader, rambini  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 because he is stupid and insecure and wants to hurt you. simple. by getting upset you are letting him, just ignore it and walk away with your dignity intact,
good luck
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (14 April 2010):
The answer is simple: he's a nutcase.
Get on with your life and get the partner you deserve.
Be pickier this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): he is trying to make himself feel better.. at the end of the day you know the truth so you have nothing to worry about! he is obviously the one that needs help..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): He is bitter about the breakup, he could be influenced by the drugs, he could just be a nasty person. It could be an number of reasons but at the end of the day, it shouldn't matter. You have broken up, move on. Don't stop to think about what he said or what he said it. His opinions and thoughts shouldn't matter anymore. Just take comfort in the fact that you did nothing wrong. By what you tell us you were a good girlfriend and if you feel you gave it all you got and he is still being rude, then its his problem entirely.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 When things turned sour, his opinions of you will turned negative.
We cannot control what others think or say .He is belittling and insulting you to make him look good .
It is good that you discovered him for what he is.
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