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female
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30-35,
*ebeccaa
writes: Hi guys I have a situation, Ive posted about this before. My last serious ex gaa got back in touch, I'm finding it strange.I'll tell what happened breifly. Everything was hunky dory he went to mqgaluf for his 21sr came back and apparently had no feelings for me. I was heartbroken for months. I came to the conclusion hed cheated. I cut all ties.I'm over it all now ive moved on. I started seeing someone new a few months after the split I'm still seeing him now but its not serious. Anyway the new guy and his mate mailed him off my phone without me knowing my ex wasn't too happy about this and put lots bad things about me on facebook me and my ex argued I blocked him. I thought this was the end I didn't think wed speak again. 7 months later he adds me on.facebook. I took a while to accept Id moved on didn't want no more of his crap, after a few days I accepted. He began liking my posts. I then posted something funny and messaged me in response to my funny post. I wrote back 'lol' although I wanted to be blunt and didn't want let him back in I was also curious as to what he wanted. We had a conversation he asked where I was working he said he had a new job but has had some other troubles. Now he's deleted me. Does anyone have any idea what his game is because I have no idea?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 June 2015):
I will never understand why folks feel the need to be friends with a former lover/partner if you don't have children together.
Being Civil and friendLY is one thing. Being FRIENDS is a totally different game that rarely works.
There is no need for you to put such effort and concern into this... because truthfully WHO CARES.
he's an EX for a reason and there is no need to give another thought to why he does what he does or what he's thinking.
IF being friends with him hurts you in any way (mentally, emotionally etc) as clearly it's doing (you needed to post about it here) then I suggest you block him and let i go.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 June 2015):
If you have NO NEED for him in your life, why not just block and un-friend him? Instead of this back and forth and wondering about what he thinks and does? It really doesn't MATTER what he thinks... HE is an ex. And an ex for a reason.
Don't waste your time on him and DO NOT let him occupy THAT much space in your brain.
There really IS RARELY NEED to be "friends" with an ex, from what I have seen it is NOT often that it BENEFITS either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): The game is that he has an insatiable desire to annoy you but wants to have info on you ,so he can go and see for hmself if he wants to. Your job s to ignore his cat and mouse actions and keep an eye out to see if he's trying to surprise you with his wonderful sudden appearance..i suggest you be aloof with this player.That always disconcerts a player because they like a challenge and if your really lucky he'll dream of a conquest which is great because that fantazy will keep him happy for hours with no involvement on your part.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (9 June 2015):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAN UPDATE..
He's messaged again this morning saying 'sorry I fell asleep x'
I'm really weary I dont know how to act. I thought he'd made it pretty clear he wanted nothing to do with me.
I'm really confused
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