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writes:I am in love with a casanova. He has a girlfriend and another female friend. And when I say friend, I mean a woman who invests her feelings on him too. What makes me think is how all three of us fall in love with him and care so much for him, it must create jealousy at some point when one finds out about the other. He, being the winner, takes it all and all three of us are just giving him whatever he wants because of what we feel for him. I'm sure each of us would want the other to 'wise up' and go away but it's not happening because he's obviously a charmer. And I don't see how he complaining nor having any problems in keeping a 'monogamous' relationship with his girlfriend and the two of us by the bay. Like I said, he's a charmer and no doubt we are all in love with him. I love him too but it hurts to hear him telling me how he spent the night over at her place or how he's taking his girlfriend to have drinks with his friends. Even if I'm out of the equation, they're still getting his love. So why would I want to pull out of the share?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Why would you want to pull out? I have to ask why would you not want to? As Sageoldguy1465 said it will eat away at you as a person, you will begin to feel worthless, will lose your self esteem and self respect. Ask yourself what exactly it is that you love about him? He already has a girlfriend, he is playing the three of use, he obviously has no respect for women at all and he doesn't care as long as he is getting his wicked way. If you stay in this mess you will live to regret it, eventually you will feel cheap and used.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Why would you want to be part of the "harem" of a "casanova"?????? It can ONLY lead to questions of your own worth.... of self-esteem..... and jealousy that you have sold your soul to a guy who isn't entitled to it!????
Get a better "boyfriend" .... AND forget that you ever posted this.....
Good luck....
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reader, snowland candy  +, writes (2 October 2012):
You need to pull out if he is not giving you %100 of the love, this will only hurt you more. and as time goes by the only one who will be damaged beyond recognition is you.He is a Casanova for a reason- He knows how to play the field, he does it well form the sounds of it. and most of all he gets away with it.A guy like this is hard to tame and his wild ways seem so appealing and attractive, its this destructive lifestyle of his will only leave a trail of heartbreak.Don't think for a second that his other girls are any competition, you have the feelings for him that they dont have, or at least he doesn't want to see it.He might be afraid to be with only one, or just not in that mature state of mind. It might take years for him to see the light, and unless you stop torturing yourself with him you can throw your self esteem out the window and only get extremely jealous.Go on a holiday from him, there are many men (many hot ones who treat you right) in this world just dying to have the love that you can give, and you deserve to have all the love in the world
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