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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I was in a long distance relationship for nearly 4 years. It was an off and on affair, I never met his family or friends but he met mine as he stayed with me regularly. There was never any mention of commitment or settling down, we enjoyed being with each other. He only told me once that he loved me and I did believe him. However,when we split which was 4 months ago he said there was someone else, but I would always be the best lover he ever had. Do you think a guy could use a woman just for sex for 4 years and if we were so great together why would he want to end it so suddenly to be with someone else? Many of my friends suggested he was possibly married, but we used to go abroad for long weekends. Part of me wants to visit where he lives, I have picked him up from his house before now and we stayed at hotels in his neighbourhood (by the way he lived with his parents)His contract ended on his phone not long after we finished and I've lost his home number. I miss him dearly, should I find out what he's up to or just move on? It just doesn't seem to make sense, I feel like i've lost not only a part of my life but a part of myself too.
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reader, miss fit +, writes (4 May 2007):
he never introduced you to his friends or familie, he lives with his parents and even after 4 years only said i love you once??try having a relationship with a man, not neanderthal. this guy is a loser.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 May 2007):
 I think it might be best to draw a line under the episode and move on. There's someone else who's stopping him wanting to be with you and even though that's hard to take, you need to move on from it so that you have a chance of finding someone who makes you happy. It's not unlikely that he's married or had a long term girlfriend. Anyone can get away for a few days without rousing suspicions after all. I don't think he was using you for sex, I think he genuinely liked you but that there was someone else in his life who ultimately meant more. Don't beat yourself up about him anymore. Move on, as hard as that is to do. He's happy and you deserve to be happy too.
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