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writes:two times in a row this guy has initiated a text conversation and asked me if i wanted to hang out the following day; both times he has stood me up without so much as a word, what gives?! i know his work schedule is kinda all over the place, and he works whenever he's called, but still... would if kill him to take a few seconds to text me and say so.I dont get it ... why would he try repeatedly to hang out with me, and then just not. it'd make sense to do it once, then blow me off if he was playing or something. but twice? it's like he wants to then falls through. about a month ago i left on vacation and prior to that we had been hanging out every day, getting along great, nothing ever really happened between us (kissing, etc) because we had just met and i was shy. but i'm kind of getting the impression he wanted to... and when we "double hugged" on the day i left, he took that as me blowing him off as anything romantic, and now he's unsure ... ? but i DID like him. had he initiated i kiss i would have been all for it. i still sort of do like him, if only he wasn't so damn confusing!i just don't know, ... please help! he isn't an a$$ type guy, none if of makes any sense to me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 September 2011):
Maybe he likes to have his ego stroked, knowing you're there. Maybe he's coward. Maybe he already has a girlfriend you don't know about. Maybe there's another reason.
Whatever the reason, to have a man stand you up twice is one time two many, especially if he gave no reason whatsoever. One time can be forgiven. Two times is too much and you should take the hint that this guy isn't as great as he may appear.
I think the best thing you can do is move. Too many people accept this treatment for too long, and you're only going to get continually let down by him.
A good man doesn't behave this way, and it's a real indication of his character that he has done so.
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