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*weet1
writes:My boyfriend and I haven't used condoms for several months. When I initially switched birth control methods we used a condom and he told me where he keeps them (hidden from his 10-year old son). Yesterday I noticed he rearranged his room and was curious if the stash was still where he keeps it. It wasn't and I panicked a bit. I found it in the first place I looked, top drawer of his dresser under underware and stuff. There was 1 more and a different brand then the others plus it expires in 2016 telling me it's newer. When we first started having sex (last Feb) he brought some to my place. It makes sense that he'd consolidate, could have found it, etc. What doesn't make sense if the fact that he moved it because the original storage place hadn't moved when he rearranged and he knew I knew where they were. I don't want to ask him because I've accused him of cheating before, with no evidence, and I think it'd be the final straw. I also checked his phone and nothing out of the ordinary. Any one have any opinion? Am I worrying for no reason? A friend suggested maybe he's testing me, as he knows I've checked them I'm the past. Thanks!!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 August 2012):
 get solid evidence before confronting him.. you should consider professional help...its important to kno what your partners doing for your own health.
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reader, sweet1 +, writes (16 August 2012):
sweet1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I am really insecure especially after being cheated on in my last relationship, so honestly, I DON'T trust my intuition on this. I'm paranoid it'll happen again. Like I said, he did buy condoms before coming over one night when we first started seeing eachother. I think we used two. The other ones he has that were previously in the stash expire in November of this year so I'm thinking they were left overs from before we got together....there are no other signs of cheating...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 August 2012):
 Sounds pretty suspicious to me... There isn't really any reason to buy new condoms except for having sex and if you aren't using condoms... I highly doubt he's testing you. Testing what, if you'll still stay with him after he erodes your trust?
Clearly something about this guy is making you suspicious. You could just be very insecure, but often times intuition on these things is correct, that there's a gut feeling something is off. Other than the condoms do you have that, or are you just the kind of person who worries about these things?
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