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writes:Guys I really need advice. I seperated from a long term relationship of (8 years) and started dating a new guy within 2 weeks. We were seeing each other all the time and he seemed so keen on me, telling me he loved me wanted to be my boyfriend that I was the most amazing person he had ever met etc. This went on for 4 months. I wasn't sure I wanted a full on relationship as I had just come out of a long term relationship that ended really badly (he cheated with my sister)so was unwilling to commit at the start. Anyway what I am getting at is as soon as I said I loved him too and that I was ready for a relationship he completly backed off saying he would rather just have me as a "fuck buddy". I am so deeply hurt at the moment and dont know what to do I keep sleeping with him hoping that he will change his mind and go back to the caring gut I knew. I cant beleive someone could change so suddenly. Do you guys think he was playing me all along? I know he wasn't just being nice so that I would sleep with him because I did pretty much from the start. Why would anyone do something like this?
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (5 February 2008):
 Hi there,
sorry mate, but you just picked up a dud that's all. A lot of guys have problems with commitment and go through the motions for a few months before moving on to the next conquest. The problem for these types of guys is they are unable to stay with a girl for longer than a few weeks or months, the chase is over, there's been lots of sex, so in their feeble pathetic minds they think what else is there?
As soon as you told him you loved him the chase was over in his mind, up until then your reluctance to commit was a rush, a challenge, you were a prize that could be won. As soon as you let out you loved him he couldnt see the point. It really is pathetic isnt it.
The request to be fuck buddies gave him away in my mind. He obviously loves the sex ( there's one compliment for you! ) but would rather have you in reserve when other things dry out. Love , relationships etc etc.. it was all just a ruse to win you over.
After an 8 year relationship, you are vulnerable so don't make this a habit, dump this guy and do I even need to go down the STD route ( chances are he sleeps with a lot of girls and maybe even some without using protection )
Do yourself a favour, move on and meet someone else.
Good luck.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 Aww hun im sorryLaura1318 sounds right in this one.Som guys just take girls for granted make them believe they're there for us forever yet when you agree with that some get scared.i think you should leave this guy and give yourself a break for a while xxX message me if you wanna talk Xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 It was not love but LUST! When you wanted more, he showed his true colors. He is a Casanova.
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