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writes:I met a man 10 years ago who was already living with his partner. We started chatting for a few months then ended up in bed. His partner found out and then we didn't didn't see each other for a couple of years and then out of the blew in phoned me and wanted to meet. We met and he told me he had married his partner, this was three weeks after marrying her (he also told me he was thinking of me on his wedding day!) I said thats fine and then carried on with my life and let him get on with his. A couple of years later he phoned me again and wanted to see me, we only spoke on the phone etc. nothing intimate happened. Then he suddenly said I can't do this anymore, I've got to try and make my marriage work, I was upset but let him go. He has then always kept in touch with me ringing me a couple times a years to see if I'm okay etc and because we live in the same town we sometimes bump into each other. Then last April we met up and he said he was not happy with his wife and things were not working out with her. I didn't hear from him then until July last year when it was my birthday and he phoned me and wanted to give me a pressie etc. we went for a drink and he told me his marriage was over. We kept in touch then, he moved out from his marital home into a place of his own , from july to about nov met up some evenings, getting very intimate etc. and going out too (evenings), he would text and phone me etc. not every day but each week that sort of thing. Then last November we went out and I said to him that I was frightened of loosing him. I have not seen him now since then, he as phoned a couple of times and text but that is all. He did say he has nothing to offer me at the moment, he can't make a comittment etc. but also over the months we got close he said things like 'I would love to wake up with you beside me'. He is very caring and affectionate to me and says he cares about me so much he worries about me.I have not heard from him now in a few weeks and am worried that he doesn't want me. I am so in love with him and have never stopped wanting him in 10 years I have known him. I have tried moving on and just can't. I feel so much for him and feel one day we will be together. I have even tried another relationship with someone for 8 years but are not together anymore. I am going out of my mind, I really like this man and want to be with him. He has said he is very confused and stressed at the moment. I am going out of my head with frustration. Does this man really want to be with me or is he just confused and doesn't know what he really wants. Shall I just give him time?Please help someone,I am not a needy woman i just feel deep inside that we are meant to be together and if I stick with it it will happen one day, he is just not ready at present because he needs to get over his previous marriage.Why would he keep coming back to me?
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reader, Fasion victims +, writes (4 April 2008):
 hello
if your afraid of loosing im then it could be love. I wouldnt suggest jumping in feet first though. dont give your heart away to fast. be weary about him though just for a little while or month maybe as he is finding it difficult letting go of his feelings for his wife he could find it hard to open them up to you.
good luck
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fasion victims
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Sure sounds like you are meant to be together and have a love that will last forever. He is just going through all the emotions of splitting up with his ex, reconnecting with you and it is a lot to cope with. Just give him some time, and make sure that he knows you love him no matter what and do not demand anything from him. Be strong and give him time and space to make commitments when he is ready to do so. Good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 In his heart, he wants to be with you but he felt that he may not be a good provider and gives you a good life.
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"He did say he has nothing to offer me at the moment, he can't make a commitments etc." Unquote.
If he cannot provide for you , he felt he was not a good husband for you. You deserved some one better.
If you love him , then you need to tell him that you love him as a person and not what he has to offer you. You are the stronger one and you have to lead him to the path to the Garden of Eden.
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