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writes:I'm talking to this guy, he's great the thing is he's married. He says he doesn't love her and that they don't sleep in the same room and you know the usual that all married men say =x. But, I want to believe him because he's amazing. He's makes me laugh, I was in this horrible relationship and he showed me how horrible it really was, I ended the relationship but not for him, I ended it for me. He tells me he loves me and he's planning on leaving his wife because he's unhappy. I don't believe it, but I'm hoping he will as horrible as that may sound. We haven't slept together we don't even kiss, but I'm head over heels in love and I'm scared I'm going to get hurt. I feel guilty because I don't want to build my castle over another girls ruins. One time he said that there was a chance that him and his wife could work things out but then he seen some guy hitting on me and he got upset and when I told him what he said he said to me I should just leave now because he hurts me and he doesn't want to hurt me I refused to because if anything I want to be his friend. I'm confused and scared, should I ride it out and see what happens or should I just do the hardest thing in the world for me and just leave?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice. But, I don't believe it has anything to do with my previous relationship, because in that relationship I knew that it wasn't going to last and I knew I was going to leave him, I just needed someone to help me along, and he did. Well, as for this married man, he's in jail right now I know I know, why would I want someone in jail. He's in it for a misdemeanor charge, and we write to eachother. I don't know why I'm so sprung over him, maybe it's the way he laughs I love his laugh uggh...I hate feeling this way.
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reader, gr8luvr +, writes (13 January 2008):
First of all, men know how to tell us ladies what we want (or need) to hear. He may in fact have a bad relationship with his wife, and talking to you is possibly fun or exciting for him. The fact that ur not the naggin' wife might be a turn on for him.Believe me though, he's not leaving his wife. You find yourself attracted to him because he is probably saying all the right things, and treats you good. Some men just know how to get to us ladies and make us fall for them. Sounds like he is taking advantage of your bad judgement in your previous relationship. Leave him alone, in the end he will only cause you more hurt.
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