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writes:I have been seeing this guy for about two weeks now who is the lead singer in a band and I don’t understand why he is still interested in me when I know I am blunt and direct at times, nor do I take much interest in his band. They’re really good, but I’d rather us talk about what else he does and is interested in. My friend said he must like that I’m not infatuated with him, act like a groupie or like him purely because he’s a musician. Which I understand he must get a lot from girls, but his friend said to me that loads of girls fancy him, so why would he like me? I mean when we first met he told me he was a lead singer in a band and I wasn’t that interested I just said oh that’s awesome and moved on, I don’t think I asked him much about himself either. He knows I like him, and that I think his a really good singer. And sure we do have banter and get along really well, just I don’t understand why he would want to be with someone who is outspoken and isn’t crazy over his band?? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 June 2011):
 Why would he like you you ask? Are you struggling with low confidence? Try to list up some of your great qualities, I'm pretty sure you have plenty, and enough to catch his interest.
A musician isn't unlike your ol' average guy on the street: they don't need a woman who loves their image, they need a woman who loves them.
The question rather is: why would he be with someone who is crazy about his band? Imagine if you're good at math in school, should you only date guys who love to solve equations?
Relationships are based on a tad bit more you know. Who's to say he'd have anything in common with a woman who loves his band. His band isn't him.
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reader, Odds +, writes (16 June 2011):
 You like him, and are attracted to him, and are honest with him. So that's one point in your favor. But you're differentiating yourself from other girls by liking his music without liking him for his music. Different is good.
Additionally, music is one of the best ways to get lots of chicks - even if all you can do is play two songs on a guitar, girls will swoon over it. Guys understand that. But your attitude shows that you like him for something about him, not for his singing. The groupies would take off the minute he stopped singing and had to get a real job; right now, he believes you would stick with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): If you have only seen him a couple weeks then he has not made the decision he wants to be with you yet. He probably appreciates you keeping things real and the novelty of dating someone new. If he has not brought up being exclusive then I would just know he probably is still getting alot of girls and treating them just like he treats you.
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