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writes: I don't know what happened? We are a couple in our mid-40's. My guy announced to me today, that we were through and he went ice cold on me. We have been together for 18 months. Last night at bedtime, he said he loved me and he said it again this morning, at breakfast. We went shopping and we had a minor disagreement. He's quite strong willed and was angry at me for the amount of money (my money-I was paying as we take turns) that I spent on grocery. As it was a public place, I kept my cool and I ignored him and carried on, shopping. He got mad, he huffed out of the store. Actually, he nags me a lot about things I don't even think as being very serious eg: if I leave the peanut jar lid loose on the jar, my teen son's messy bedroom, a few dishes in the sink, if I miss a day at the gym, if I leave a kitchen light on, if I want to read in bed with a night light on, if I forget to tighten a dripping faucet, etc., etc. The list is endless. Trivial crap, really. I have been patient but there have been times I have set a boundry and told him to stop the crap, because it was too much. We've always managed to work through and carry on, or so I had thought. My question is: For him to have suddenly gone from 'love to hate' in just a few hours (!) I think he has truely 'not' loved me for some time, as he has said he has, everyday. Do you think he has been lying all along and thinking about leaving me? After writing this message and re-reading, I am thinking maybe I should've just kicked his selfish ass out, a long time ago...lol What the hell am I thinking?? What do you all think? I just want to know why a man would turn from 'love to hate' within a few hours? I sure as hell hope, not all men are like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHAHA
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): I think you know the answer to this one. Pick, pick, pick. He has done it bit by bit over time and so you haven't noticed it and it looks like it has gone from love to hate overnight! Don't put up with this rubbish. Life is too short. Get rid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): This guy hasnt loved you for a long time,seems you have been taken for a fool,kick his sorry arse out of your life and move on seems you have your days full to get you through the tough times ahead.im a past person of the same treatment and i came through it with 5 children and im actually engaged to a wonderful guy right now good luck.
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reader, xBadabingbadaboomx  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 lol!!! yeh i agree with LILY 223!
I would have lost my rag along time ago and if i were you i probably would have sent him packin!! unless there was a dramtic change in his behaviour! or there was a bloody good reason for letting him stay!!!
Maybe try and talk to him and ask him why he is bein such an asshole? sorry but it had to be sed...
Maybe its his "time of the month" lol or maybe he is just treatin u like a fool and gets enjoyment out of hurtin ur feelings...either way he is out of order and the sooner u sort it out the better!
I feel for u!!
Good Luck
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 No, not all men are like this... but, yes, there are a select few that are. Your bf sounds like he is just being mean, hateful, and hurtful, and has resorted to what is equivilant to a two year olds temper tantrum. Should you have kicked him out long ago? :) If it were me, I would have. I don't believe he has gone from loving you to hating you in a few hours... it sounds to me that he forgot his age and regressed for juvinile behavior in order to get his way and make you feel bad.
His behavior is pure Bullsh*t, and I think you know that. Not that I think you should give up a relationship over a single arguement... but if this is an on going thing I'd be telling him to "Grow the F up or pack your F-ing bags, Brother!"
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