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30-35,
*pendy
writes:Why would a guy wanna hurt a girl who loves him and adores him? ?Every time a girl will meet a guy he's so sweet, you look past his flaw cos your a nice person. You love him and would do anything to make him smile, always there when he needs you..Only to find out that they never really loved you cos if you love someone you won't hurt them right? You won't do anything to make them cry.It happens time and time again to the good girls the once who love a guy for who he is and would never cheat.But yet the good girls get cheated on, abused, used and hurt.We don't like bad guys, we don't go for someone we know will hurt us, they deceive us makes us believe they love us when they don't.Why would they wanna hurt such a good person? Why would they wanna a break a perfectly good hurt:(Am starting to think maybe love doesn't exist:)HUGS
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 You answered your own question in the second sentence.
"YOU LOOK PAST HIS FLAWS BECAUSE YOU'RE A NICE PERSON"
Kindness kills sista.
People spend more time buying a watch or a car than they do they're personal RS's.
You gotta have the facts, do your homework, ask around, get to know, go out with, talk a bunch and watch carefully.
You've gotta have that rap sheet before you unwrap your heart.
You also gotta know your own boundaries.
It's simple if you do these things first.
It's painful if you neglect them.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Don't think like that. Love does exist. Look hard enough and you will see that there are a lot of happy couples out there who still love each other even after so long and they would do anything to make each other happy. That is real love.
Happiness does not come so easily to some. Sometimes, it is greed and lust and sloth and stupidity or sometimes even misfortune that drives men and women alike to betray their partners. Sometimes people just cannot help it, that does not mean they do not love their partners, it just means they lack self-control.
If a someone means to hurt their partners, partners who adore them, they are cruel and ill-minded. But sometimes cruelty is taught and fixated in one's mind no matter how passionate they are about ridding themselves of it. Taught by their parents or their siblings or even their friends and they cease to have control over their actions though they might try.
The dark truth being that the cruel ones are made to be alluring, they know how to tempt someone and draw them into their prison of a world. They know what to say and how to say it, they know when and where, they know how to deceive and manipulate, they know how to steal control from someone until their 'partner' becomes a broken pet instead of a lover. Believe it or not, that still does not mean that horrible person does not love or has never loved. Sometimes there are those people who destroy all around them, not out of intention but a deranged instinct. Lies they tell themselves, delusions that drive them towards wrecking the people they care about the most. Some of them try to heal themselves and heal those they have ruined, some of them truly regret. Those are the ones tortured by the irony that befalls them, they are their own captors and they have to escape and they try and some succeed so they are free to express their love without ever fearing the pain they may inflict upon their loved ones.
The good ones seldom ever act out of free will, they are forced by whatever life throws at them. The evil ones who never regret and never care, those are the ones to avoid, the ones who play devilish games with the ones who love them, pushing them away and forcing them to distance themselves only to draw them back again and again and again, it never stops until the good partner, who is loving and caring and a person any other person would cherish, breaks.
The only word of advise I can give to anyone is to be cautious, do not rush into things too quickly, truly get to know someone before you decide to trust your heart.
I hope that helps.
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